Does your husband get mad at you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. He tries not to, but has a one-day tolerance for any illness. After 1 day, he either pretends I don’t have it anymore, gets very irritable, or starts making passive digs at me. Sometimes all of those things.

+1. Glad I’m not alone! I always say, my husband is the best protector, provider....NOT a nurturer by any means. Totally his weakness.

[Anonymous]

Yes, my DH can get irritated with me. But he acknowledges it's irrational. I think it's more that the children go crazy, the house falls apart, etc. He also NEVER gets sick so I think it's hard for him to empathize.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. He tries not to, but has a one-day tolerance for any illness. After 1 day, he either pretends I don’t have it anymore, gets very irritable, or starts making passive digs at me. Sometimes all of those things.

+1. Glad I’m not alone! I always say, my husband is the best protector, provider....NOT a nurturer by any means. Totally his weakness.

Same with my husband until he became a grandfather. It is so much fun to see him in a new light.

[Anonymous]

Neither of us are particularly nurturing. We'll cover for the other with kids, household stuff, but we aren't hovering over the other saying, 'poor, poor baby, what can I do for you?'

[Anonymous]

I’m the female, but I get frustrated with him. He is the WORST sick person: every cold, sniffle, toothache or muscle strain might as well be the end stages of hemorrhagic fever for all of whining, writhing, and moaning. He will refuse to go to bed, and instead park himself in the busiest part of the house and proceed to sleep there, so the rest of us have to tiptoe around him. I’ll provide him with meds(decongestant, analgesic, whatever) but he won’t take them until I pretty much open the bottle for him, take out the pill, and give him water. (And I do it because listening to him complain about how much his head hurts, how stuffy he is, whatever is worse for me than opening the damn bottle). He won’t obey my simple requests like stay out of the kitchen or only use the one bathroom if he’s vomiting, so everyone ends up coming down with anything he has.Every little bug, than any normal person would be over in a few days, or at least feeling better, he has for weeks.

So, I don’t get mad, but I do feel frustrated because I know the routine and it gets tiresome, especially since he won’t help me out when I’m sick. I move to the guest room, go to the pharmacy for my own meds, make my own soup for a cold, and have to get on as usual.

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. Neither do I with him.

BUT we both tend to power through minor illnesses (colds, upset stomachs, minor headaches) so I think that has something to do with it. If we are sick, we are sick sick.

I get mad at DH, but he does not power through. He checks out.

I am the same. Get mad at him when he is sick. Small illnesses seem to take him right out of commission.

I would get mad when it was something like the flu, where he was told to get the vaccine as our DD had asthma, and did not because 'he did not believe in the vaccine'. So when the flu took him down for 10 days, he got no empathy from me as I was the one stuck with all the work because he stood on crazy principle.

[Anonymous]

I get so annoyed when DH is sick. He's so overly dramatic and can't/won't do anything involving the kids or the house because he's "sick" -- even though it's just the same cold everyone else in the family has. He'll sit around and literally moan. This can go on for a week. He'll imagine that his kidneys are failing or that he has some sort of cancer.

So freaking tired of him. I don't coddle him at all when he's sick as a result. I don't go out of my way to make food for him, etc.

That said, I'm no martyr when I'm sick. I may lay around or take the day off, but that's only a couple times a year at most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can honestly say that I cannot remember the last time my husband was mad at me. He’s really too good to me.

So sweet!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get so annoyed when DH is sick. He's so overly dramatic and can't/won't do anything involving the kids or the house because he's "sick" -- even though it's just the same cold everyone else in the family has. He'll sit around and literally moan. This can go on for a week. He'll imagine that his kidneys are failing or that he has some sort of cancer.

So freaking tired of him. I don't coddle him at all when he's sick as a result. I don't go out of my way to make food for him, etc.

That said, I'm no martyr when I'm sick. I may lay around or take the day off, but that's only a couple times a year at most.

Jesus lady get divorced already.

[Anonymous]

I feel like sometimes we get a little testy with each other when the other is sick but that is because the other parent is picking up all childcare etc for a day or two and are mostly just stressed out about THAT. My DH is actually really fantastic when I am sick. He encourages me to take it easy and will go to the store for me. I have a tendency to just ignore and push through and so he tries to make me not do that if anything else.

He is, like other posters husband's here, prone to really milking it himself when he's not feeling good. But seeing how I never let things slow me down much has made him roll that back a little. He will be grumpy but won't sit out of regular duties unless he's really feeling bad. And so I try to just take care of him and let him milk it a bit when he needs to. Doesn't happen that often!

The only thing I really give him grief about is SUNBURNS. OMG he gets a sunburn and literally cannot function for days. Even he knows he's ridiculous about it though so he makes fun of himself. But in that case he has like, ruined vacations and I have been like dude you need to be able to roll with this a little more, EVERYONE gets one occasionally, we spent money to come here, figure out how to turn it around! Mostly we are just REALLY on top of sunscreen now knowing how he is just incapable of having one and now turning into a major grouch for days.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. He tries not to, but has a one-day tolerance for any illness. After 1 day, he either pretends I don’t have it anymore, gets very irritable, or starts making passive digs at me. Sometimes all of those things.

+1. Glad I’m not alone! I always say, my husband is the best protector, provider....NOT a nurturer by any means. Totally his weakness.

What does he protect you from?

Do you live in the jungle?

[Anonymous]

No. But I get annoyed that he won't admit he's sick and rest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are y’all marrying these man babies?

Because they trick you in the beginning. Apparently a ring is kryptonite, weakening men into little babies.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get so annoyed when DH is sick. He's so overly dramatic and can't/won't do anything involving the kids or the house because he's "sick" -- even though it's just the same cold everyone else in the family has. He'll sit around and literally moan. This can go on for a week. He'll imagine that his kidneys are failing or that he has some sort of cancer.

So freaking tired of him. I don't coddle him at all when he's sick as a result. I don't go out of my way to make food for him, etc.

That said, I'm no martyr when I'm sick. I may lay around or take the day off, but that's only a couple times a year at most.

Jesus lady get divorced already.

Oh, I'm in the process! But even before, I wasn't that patient with him when he was sick. The way he acts when he's "sick" is illustrative of a broader lack of resilience that has worn down our marriage.

[Anonymous]

He doesn't get mad at me. He does wait 5 hours from when I wake up sick, text from work that he's desperately ill and his googling has told him it's cancer, leave work to go to an urgent care, find out he's not sick but still feel sorry for himself, come home and lay on the couch.

Not every time. But 5 times out of 6.