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Anonymous
| I am looking at this thread in disbelief. OP your daughter is five months old..she should not be in any kind of situation where she is bitten. Sorry. If you had said she was 14 months old, I would feel different because then she is interacting with other kids but at five months old, you are basically hanging in your swing, baby saucer etc. Clearly someone wasn't watching her and I am guessing she was sitting in a swing etc. and the center allowed this older child to bite her. Not okay and I would leave. |
Anonymous
Kids aren't segregated like that in daycare. An infant room usually goes up to 12 months. The babies are - and should be - allowed to crawl around and pull up and toddle around if they can in an infant room, which usually has soft flooring, soft toys, padding around any corners or sharp edges, etc. Of course there should be supervision but the whole purpose is to provide a safe space for them to explore. You say you'd feel differently if OPs baby was "interacting with other kids" - so is a 5-month old supposed to be kept in a bubble and not allowed to interact with the other kids? Then you'd be telling OP to pull her baby out of this daycare immediately because they're not providing enough stimulation. |
Anonymous
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OP the daycare center is not allowed, by law, to tell you who did the biting.
Just wondering. What difference would it make? |
Anonymous
I've been on the other side, and no, they didn't tell me who the bitee was. |
Anonymous
| Five months old is rare for "crawling around"--and yes an infant should be segrated from mobile kids who can hurt her. |
Anonymous
| Hmm...I will try to make this helpful. I'm sorry your child was hurt. This will happen again. At daycare, at a playdate, on a playground....kids bite. There are good books out there "Teeth are not for biting" and good teachers enforce this message. I would ask the caregiver more about how discipline is handled and what precautions they are taking but just so you know THIS HAPPENS all the time and will likely happen again. Sorry. |
Anonymous
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If your baby is only five months old, the center should be doing a better job of keeping the toddlers away from her.
My kids have been bitten and have bitten others (only once or twice) but they were in the same age grouping when this happened with other toddlers. Once the children are more mobile and able to bite, hit and even kick, they should be segregated away from the little babies. Now, they are all in the baby toddler ROOM of the center but they do have gated off areas for the babies vs. the toddlers. I can't imagine a five month old being bitten at the center I've used for he past 7 years.... |
Anonymous
| 20 44 here, I wrote my reply before I read the others and I strongly agree with others who say your infant should not be with toddlers who can hurt her. My center accomplishes this; I can't see why another center wouldn't want to protect the babies and themselves by doing the same thing. At 14 months a child could really hurt an infant. |
Anonymous
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Going to disagree on the babies not being around toddlers. What do you think kids who are at home with their moms do? What if mom has a 5 month old and 14 month old? Does she keep them separate all the time? I doubt it.
And then there are home daycares, which certainly don't segregate by age, and a baby in a swing could easily be accessed by an older kid. And that's a good thing, the older ones learn how to treat the younger ones, and the younger ones can learn from watching the older ones. |
Anonymous
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No, mom doesn't need to separate them, but the ratio of caregiver to kids at home usually isn't four or five to one. It is more difficult for the center to have three or four teachers watching 15 kids. There is a lot going on.
And you are right about home daycares. That's why I don't use one. I use a center that keeps the babies away from the toddlers. |
Anonymous
| The sanctimommies are out in full force. |
Anonymous
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If you really don't want another baby or toddler ever touching your baby, you ought to get a nanny. That way your child can have constant one-on-one supervision and never, ever be touched by another child.
Kids in daycare are all in the same room. They're going to touch each other. How is that a surprise? |
Anonymous
I totally agree with this. Toddlers biting each other is one thing (biting usually peaks at 2 - 2 1/2 years) but an INFANT getting bitten at five months of age? That is insane. And really sad because all research indicates that babies at this age are trying to figure out if the world is a good or bad place, and whether their caregivers will really protect them and accept them and do anything to make sure they are safe and secure. It's totally screwed up. |
Anonymous
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No. They don't tell either parent the names of either child.
I know how upsetting it was for me (my kid has been in both roles). I trusted my daycare center, and I truly think they handled things seriously, safely, with candor, and in ways to help the toddlers stop biting. That was enough for me. |