Have you ever been in touch with an ex after years of no contact?

[Anonymous]

I'm in touch with at least 12 exes on Facebook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Female- Happily married for 16 yrs. I plan to reach out to my ex bf when I go back home to visit. Haven't seen him 16 years, haven't talked in 6.

I have seen his parents a couple of times when I have gone back home, having dinner with them, my kids and DH.

My ex bf married a bit of a nut, it sounds like unfortunately and she is jealous even of his family (per his mum). So I wasn't surprised when I reached out to him 6 yrs ago to see if he and his DW wanted to have dinner/hang out with us and he said he'd check with her and I didn't hear back.

He was a really sweet guy and I hope he's having a great life. We dated for 12 years so we were really good friends but I knew something else was out there for me and then I met DH. I really just want to say hi/thank him for being a great guy. As my daughters and son grow up I really think about him a lot in terms of "He was a wonderful first love. I hope they find people in their lives who were as wonderful/amazing/trustworthy and as caring with their hearts".

I think this is nice that you have such good feelings towards but, tbh, I can't imagine asking my husband to hang out with my ex boyfriend and my ex boyfriend's wife. That just seems so incredibly....awkward.....no matter how great you think your ex was/is. I don't think I'd want to hang out with one of dh's ex girlfriends, either.

[Anonymous]

Several old boyfriends have contacted me. I'm not sure what they hoped to gain really because in all of the cases there has been huge physical distance. One boyfriend ghosted me and that was before that was even a term. He got a phone number for me several years later and called to apologize which I appreciated. He remained interested in me and called a couple of times but there was an ocean that separated us so no point. Now that my dating life is decades in the rear view I think getting in touch is more like taking a walk down memory lane. The most recent ex to contact me wrote for the first time a few years ago and it was cathartic because he broke my heart (only other guy besides my DH that I could see settling down with but we were too young). We still exchange periodic emails. I can see that we were very similar but he would have made a shitty husband. It's nice to be in touch with my old freewheeling self.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in touch with at least 12 exes on Facebook.

12 exes? Are some of these just three month things.

[Anonymous]

Nope, haven’t

[Anonymous]

Bumped into each other accidentally. I’m happily married. I think he’s comfortable. Zero sparks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in touch with at least 12 exes on Facebook.

12 exes? Are some of these just three month things.

You made me think about it. Indeed, one was just a one night thing, one was 8 weeks, one I was married to for 4 years, one was for a summer when I first moved here, another was about 10 months, one was an occasional FWB for a few years, ...

[Anonymous]

I’m F he messaged me on Facebook because his ex deleted my number out of his phone. We had broken up about 7 years prior and had little to no contact for most of that time. He finally left his ex and messaged me. We then talked and haven’t stopped talking for about 18 months. He lives far away from me now so I haven’t seen him. It’s more a friendship as my feelings for him are not sexual anymore.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Almost all of them.

[Anonymous]

Tried. Best lover I ever had. Have not been able to track her down.

[Anonymous]

I have an ex from high school (17 yrs ago) who sends me Facebook friend requests about once a year. When I was younger (early 20s) I would accept in hopes of reconciliation, we'd catch up then have some argument after a period of time and stop talking-to rinse and repeat. I finally matured and stopped accepting them.

[Anonymous]

Man here. I reached out to en ex once. She didn’t know it, but the purpose was to apologize for hurting her when we broke up. Sometimes there isn’t an evil conspiracy behind the attempt at contact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I reached out to en ex once. She didn’t know it, but the purpose was to apologize for hurting her when we broke up. Sometimes there isn’t an evil conspiracy behind the attempt at contact.

Why would you even think I bothered her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I reached out to en ex once. She didn’t know it, but the purpose was to apologize for hurting her when we broke up. Sometimes there isn’t an evil conspiracy behind the attempt at contact.

Why would you even think I bothered her?

It bothered

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I reached out to en ex once. She didn’t know it, but the purpose was to apologize for hurting her when we broke up. Sometimes there isn’t an evil conspiracy behind the attempt at contact.

It's understandable that you wanted to be on good terms with her, no hard feelings. I'm sure she realized why you reached out. Sometimes you don't have to say it directly.