Divorced but live together

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Other than perhaps in the case of an affair I don't see how the same conflicts that prevent you from remaining married will enable you to peacefully co-exist in the same house. If there are conflicts regarding parenting methods those will still exist. If there are division of labor conflicts those will still exist. Conflicts regarding finances will still exist as well since you will have some shared obligations in terms of mortgage, utilities, etc. Obviously issues with alcoholism or drugs will also still exist.

+1000

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who shares both the family house and a cheap room in a shared apartment -- they switch back and forth. Not sure it is ideal but it really has helped the kids deal with the divorce. Their world changed very little

[Anonymous]

I tried this without kids. It lasted two weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who shares both the family house and a cheap room in a shared apartment -- they switch back and forth. Not sure it is ideal but it really has helped the kids deal with the divorce. Their world changed very little

So, I thought this would be a great idea, nesting, keep the kids in the family home, have a separate apartment for weeks I wasn't with kids. But I doubt that any of the chores I do on a regular basis would get done by anybody other than me ... so then I'd be taking care of two homes. No thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Other than perhaps in the case of an affair I don't see how the same conflicts that prevent you from remaining married will enable you to peacefully co-exist in the same house. If there are conflicts regarding parenting methods those will still exist. If there are division of labor conflicts those will still exist. Conflicts regarding finances will still exist as well since you will have some shared obligations in terms of mortgage, utilities, etc. Obviously issues with alcoholism or drugs will also still exist.

+1000

+1. And then throw dating while living in the same household into the mix.