Would you assume this babysitter isn't coming?

[Anonymous]

OP again. I was thinking it was plausible that she didn't remember my address (since she'd only been over the one time), and didn't have her phone to look it up. Like, she could have remembered that I lived on F Street (for example) but not the block number. But still. I agree, I think she could have done something more.

If she had shown up with no phone, it would have presented another problem, because we don't have a landline. I would have had to leave my phone with her for texting/calling us with any problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP - I had a babysitter ghost on us recently, except unlike in your situation, we just never heard from her after she was supposed to babysit. It was really upsetting and I still have no idea what happened.

Is this a common thing?

No idea if it is common, but definitely a red flag.

[Anonymous]

I would have directly called her phone to make sure she was okay.

Or at least had the same phone no.#
Or to confirm her phone was still in good working order.

[Anonymous]

It’s been over a week. Yes, I would assume she isn’t coming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would think not coming too. But fyi. DD is AA and we outsource her hair. She had an appt today. Its roughly every 2/2.5 weeks. I texted a reminder last night, no ans. Texted this morning, no ans. So then i sent her a fb message and she responded " yes, my phone is broken". So give her the benefit of the doubt....unless tonight is the night and shes still not there.

What does your daughters ethnicity have anything to do with the telling of your story?

Black hair appointments are sacred and long. You book one and it’s a commitment. Much different than most white salons.

This. Especially a Saturday appointment!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I heard from her the next day. She said she had her purse stolen on Friday, had no way to contact me on Saturday, bought a new phone on Sunday, and luckily had my contact info in her cloud. She apologized.

I am not sure how I feel. I guess if I had had a longer history with her, I would know whether to trust this. But since I only had her babysit one time before, we didn't have a trusting relationship built up, so I just don't know. At this point, I think I'm just going to move on with other babysitters for the future.

If her phone was stolen, but her info was in your cloud, and you had booked weeks prior, why didn't she just show up / go to icloud.com and find your number and call you from another phone?

If my purse was stolen, I would be overwhelmed with canceling credit cards, changing the locks, and getting a new driver’s license before school reopens and I can’t easily take time off. I’ve had a purse stolen before and I didn’t risk driving until I could go to the MVA. I was too afraid of being pulled over.