Feeling guilty about early drop off
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Anonymous
Oh please. I did it a 6:30 drop off for nearly the entire time my kids were in daycare (and for a few years at before-care at elementary school). They're now 16 and 12 and don't seem to be scarred for life.  I won't mention they're straight A students, strong athletes, and all around good kids.
OP, don't feel bad. There's *always* something to feel guilty about, but your kids will be fine. And they have the advantage of early pick-ups and afternoons/evenings with you. There were plenty of kids who weren't dropped off until close to 9 but Mom/Dad didn't get them until 6:00 and they had what, 2-3 hours with Mom and Dad before they were put back to bed? My only tip is with my kids I used to put them to bed wearing the clothes they'd wear to daycare the next day. Getting them up and out in the morning was a lot easier. |
Anonymous
| Where on earth would you find a morning nanny from 7-9 am? I can’t imagine anyone willing to work such short hours. |
Anonymous
| We do early drop offs with all 3 of my kids. We are leaving the house no later than 6:10 (I really need to leave earlier). Yes, I feel guilty at times but I have such a bad commute, it is what it is. It's a mad house in the morning but overall my kids are in a good mood and we still have time in the evenings to play outside and chill out before the bedtime routine starts. |
Anonymous
| Wait - you are dropping your youngest off, and then going back home? That's terribly inefficient. Can your husband get your oldest on the bus? |
Anonymous
| OP, it's fine! Everyone can just go to bed early and get up early. Just shift the sleep schedules a bit. It's great that you will be home so early in the afternoon and great that you have summers off. People shaming the OP are wrong, wrong, wrong. |
Anonymous
There are people who would be willing to work 10-15 hours a week in the morning for some extra money. A college kid who has classes later in the morning or someone who can watch the kids in the AM and then go to a 9:30-5:30 job. Maybe a SAHM with older kids who wouldn't mind some extra money. I suspect that if you looked on CARE.com or talked to a service you could find someone. It is not that different then a college kid who picks your kids up from school and watches them until you get home. I have several friend who have this arrangement. |
Anonymous
Maybe if she had a teenager! I have to leave the house at 6:50ish this year with my 14 yr old DS so I can drop him off at school on the way to work. Now THAT will be painful. |
Anonymous
My friends have a young lady who comes to their house before her full time job starts. She gets the kids up, ready, and drops them off at school, and then goes to work. I think they found her through care.com and she's been with them for over a year. |
Anonymous
| My kid has never slept past 630 in his life, is up before 6 90% of the time. I wish I had this set up, we would have so much more time in the evenings together. I think this is way better than a 6 pm pick up. |
Anonymous
If she is getting up at 5:30 three days a week, she's unlikely to sleep in the other days. He'll have some nice morning time and breakfast with her but it's not sleep. Unrelated but I'm shocked a six year old's bus comes that early. The earliest elementary school bell time in my area is 8:30. |
Anonymous
| Everyone is crazy. I know plenty of kids up at 5:30 and ready to go. And the early pick up is awesome! Your kids will be fine. Congrats on the new position! |
Anonymous
| Why cant your dh do more than 2 drop offs? |
Anonymous
If your husband can drop her off at 8, on the days he's not dropping off, why can't he get your older kid on the bus at 7? |
Anonymous
My younger one routinely got up at 4.30am...and now at 9 years old, "sleeps in" till 6. So, some kids are just ready early. |
Anonymous
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Honestly whether this is a bad thing or not it depends on your child's body clock. Would not work for me at all because DD is a naturally late riser; at age 3 her natural wakeup time was 8 o'clock, and now at age 5 her natural wakeup time is 7 to 7:30 (though she occasionally sleeps till 8). Waking her in time to drop her off somewhere at 6:30 would have been disruptive to her sleep.
In contrast, my friend's kids wake up at 5:30/6 on their own, so for them this would be no big deal. I'd say see what happens after a week or two and if your kid seems consistently tired, then look into the unicorn of a morning-only nanny. |