Help with preschooler's dry, wavy/curly hair

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all never brush curly hair. Only use a comb from now on. A tiny bit of coconut oil will do workers to help de tangle.

Uh, what? Please brush curly hair. Just start at ends and work your way thru any tangles. How are you supposed to get edges down or smooth a ponytail without a brush?

[Anonymous]

My little one has beautiful curls so after research/trial and error we use “As I Am Born Curly” hair and body oil. Wash 2x/week, if we go to the pool I just use conditioner. Wooden comb to use in tub and wooden brush to run through it in the evening and after working some oil into it. By morning it looks great. As she gets older we’ll probably do a satin pillowcase so her hair doesn’t get dried out. She’s <1 now so no pillows. That oil is awesome on my own wavy hair and wonderful on dry skin. Smells great!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all never brush curly hair. Only use a comb from now on. A tiny bit of coconut oil will do workers to help de tangle.

Uh, what? Please brush curly hair. Just start at ends and work your way thru any tangles. How are you supposed to get edges down or smooth a ponytail without a brush?

Omg you clearly don't have curly hair - or if you do, it's a frizzy mess. You get tangles out of curly hair by combing while WET only. If you brush while dry you will break up the curls and turn them to puff/frizz.

[Anonymous]

Wet brush. And if she wants a kid branded leave in product, Avon makes a good one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all never brush curly hair. Only use a comb from now on. A tiny bit of coconut oil will do workers to help de tangle.

Uh, what? Please brush curly hair. Just start at ends and work your way thru any tangles. How are you supposed to get edges down or smooth a ponytail without a brush?

That’s not how it works with tight curls. You don’t brush to do those things you use a comb on wet hair.

[Anonymous]

Ignore this PP. Amazon sells fake products.

+1 I got very poor results with Ouidad products purchased for me off of Amazon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd go with a shorter hair cut (e.g., closer to chin than shoulder) if she's amenable. A good cut is important for curly hair. As for upkeep, get a detangler comb, and brush hair only when wet. My kid also hates rinsing out hair, so we use fairy tales tangle tamer--it works well, but I haven't really compared it to others. Spray it on while the hair is still very wet, then leave the hair along. You can use the spray (maybe with some water) to revive curls too.

OP here - it's closer to chin length when curly already! And yes, if ONLY I could get her to sit for a haircut, she was too scared last time (even though she watched her big sister do it, and even though she'd done it once before). I'll try the fairy tales spray, thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ignore all the PPs. She's already had the Deva cut (a dry cut for curly girls) why would you not purchase the Deva products? You can get 32 oz bottles on Amazon for cheaper than the 12 oz bottles in the salon. Buy One Condition and No Poo. Wash with the No Poo 2-3 times a week, and condition with the One Condition Daily (or as often as she bathes). Do not brush her hair - fingers only! If you must dry her hair, use a micro fiber towel or a tshirt.

OP here, LOL! I'm totally going to tell people she got a Deva cut from now on!

[Anonymous]

OP here - I'll try a comb on her. I only use a comb on my wavy hair, I don't know why I use a wet brush on hers!

[Anonymous]

I don’t use traditional soap most nights. I pour a teaspoonful of Dr Bronner’s into the bath water and rinse hair and body but that’s about it. While wet I detangle with a “wet brush” brand wide-toothed comb, then pat with a microfiber towel to get most of the water out. Have them sleep on a satin pillowcase.

In the morning I spray with shea moisture hold and shine moisture mist to perk up the curls and I usually braid the front section like this:
https://glamorous-hairstyles.com/21-fabulous-medium-length-bob-hairstyles.html/medium-bob-hairstyles-18
Which makes it look cute and relatively tidy even if the rest of their hair is wild curls and keeps it out of their face.

Twice a week we shampoo with a devacurl or shea moisture product, then follow up with a conditioner. About once a month I will do a deep moisturizing hair mask before bath, just to keep it from getting too dried out.

[Anonymous]

go to Fiddleheads if you can. Great curl experts!

[Anonymous]

Second all the wonderful responses on here. Also, make sure you ditch the Suave/Honest products too and check out the curly-hair shampoo/conditioner products mentioned here.

Curly, dry hair needs special moisturizing products.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

My friend's daughter has fine, tight curls and she recommended Original Sprout Miracle Detangler. It's pricier but works so well on my DD's medium-thick just barely curly hair. Her hairline is fine so it gets mullet-y too, and a lot of the heavier creams made her look greasy. Also YES to only using a comb. I wash and comb her hair at night, then in the morning spray it with water, side part it, pull the heavier side out of her eyes with a clip or small hair tie, then scrunch it a little.

The other product I love is Alaffia Everyday Coconut Strawberry body lotion and hair moisturizer. I ran out of the Original Sprout and found this at Target. It's great on her skin too so more economical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Ignore this PP. Amazon sells fake products.

+1 I got very poor results with Ouidad products purchased for me off of Amazon.

I have never had an issue with the DevaCurl products I have purchased on Amazon, and I have been buying them there for 10+ years.

OP - get you kid to a curl specialist. DevaCurl has them listed on their website and there are other threads about recommendations. You don't have to do that for every hair cut, but they will help you get this under control. I'm not joking when I say a Deva cut changed my curly head's life! Help your child learn how to care for their hair nice and early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Ignore this PP. Amazon sells fake products.

+1 I got very poor results with Ouidad products purchased for me off of Amazon.

I have never had an issue with the DevaCurl products I have purchased on Amazon, and I have been buying them there for 10+ years.

OP - get you kid to a curl specialist. DevaCurl has them listed on their website and there are other threads about recommendations. You don't have to do that for every hair cut, but they will help you get this under control. I'm not joking when I say a Deva cut changed my curly head's life! Help your child learn how to care for their hair nice and early.

As someone who flat ironed her hair for 15 years because my parents had no idea how to deal with curly hair, I totally agree with this. I didn't figure out how to care for my curls till I was in my late 20s and saw a deva stylist, and I regret not doing it sooner. I love my curls now! Also check out the reddit.com/r/curlyhair - lots of good info on there.