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hiding pregnancy - mocktails?
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Anonymous
| Depending on where you are it is sometimes necessary to specify you want a cocktail glass or a lime or something to make it look more like a cocktail. Recently I was at a bar and ordered a ginger ale (22 weeks, not trying to hide pregnancy) and was served a big soda/water glass of ginger ale with a big straw. When I was hiding the pregnany, I'd ask for a ginger ale in a cocktail glass with a lime. That actually looked like a cocktail. But I have also done the order/hold a glass of wine and have my husband sneak sips. |
Anonymous
| I am a beer drinker so not sure if this will work for you.....But the best thing I did was grab a beer bottle (brown bottles work the best) empty it in the bathroom and then fill it with water. No one had any clue! |
Anonymous
I second the suggestion to ask for a cocktail glass - my experience was that I'd get the big water glass if I didn't ask for a short glass. Ginger ale, club soda, and cranberry juice and soda all pass for "real" drinks very well. They also make for a cheap bar tab! 
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I am a big wine drinker, so if I didn't have a glass of wine in my hands during an event, it would have been pretty obvious I was pregnant. I would have the wine glass in my hand and pretend to sip here and there and when my husband was finished his, we would just switch glasses and I would go refill mine. My husband did a lot of drinking for 2 in the beginning!
Do note, that Tonic water is on the no no list since it has quinine in it! |
Anonymous
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when I was trying to hide my pregnancy, I had a tough time at parties because I'm normally a beer drinker or a wine drinker. A prolific one. At bars, I quickly learned what places carried "non-alcoholic" beer and would order a couple of those in secret. Nobody ever caught me doing that. (note: those do have a very small %age of alcohol, about 1/10th of a miller lite. my doctor was ok with that - some people aren't.) A couple times I did the "sip very occasionally and slowly" trick with wine.
Warning: if you are normally a beer drinker or wine drinker and you suddenly switch to "liquor", people will notice and comment, so be prepared with an answer. I almost got busted one night drinking "vodka and cranberry" by a girl who rightfully pointed out that she had only seen me drink liquor once in our friendship. (note: virgin 007's are very tasty. i think it's an orange juice and sprite.) one good way to avoid questions is to tell people you're going easy on the drinking because you got totally loaded at a holiday party the night before and the mere smell of alcohol is making you sick. You can also pull the antibiotics excuse for two weekends in a row. And you can have a couple of diet cokes (about 55 mg of caffeine per 12 oz) and use the excuse that you are exhausted and need to wake up a bit. You can also tell people you lost a bet to your husband so you have to be DD for X amount of time. |
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Glass of wine, cut it half-and-half with water and that way I didn't worry quite as much when I did take a sip here and there. I was actually sitting next to my mother at a wedding when I was 7wks pregnant and we hadn't told her yet. Had a "7&7" (plain gingerale) during cocktail hour, and then my wine/water combo with dinner. She didn't suspect a thing.
Even now that people know I'm pregnant, I'll ask for a blend of gingerale or seltzer with cranberry and orange juices and lime. Looks pretty and fizzy in a cocktail glass. |
Anonymous
| pp here - one more idea. if you are known as an athletic person, you could say you're in training for a race and that your running group has an absurdly early run time on Saturdays or Sundays. a lot of my friends didn't drink (or drank very sparingly) on the nights before their long runs the next day. (I used to take it easy before 20-milers or races, but didn't worry about it otherwise.) other friends of mine take it easy because of early morning spinning classes. Or you could say it's crunch time at work and your stupid boss called an early morning meeting on a Saturday. |
Anonymous
to the 18:11 poster - I did this too! I'd forgotten about that trick! (I'd also use a beer coozy on my bottle so that nobody could tell I'd been carrying around an empty bottle for the past hour.) |
Anonymous
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Another good trick is to tell people you have a urinary tract infection - anyone who's ever had one will understand immediately why you're not drinking alcohol, and, even if others haven't had one, most people don't want to talk about these (guys especially!). Saying that will probably put an end to most questions (and most conversations, for that matter - LOL!).
Of course, this tip is probably better for family and friends than it is for work associates, but I just thought I'd share it for anyone who can use it! =) |
Anonymous
| It's funny because a lot of these are pretty dependant on the person. I drink both liquor and wine frequently so for me, the fake mixed drinks work fine but if you are really a beer or wine drinker, I can see how you are better off carrying a drink and just fake sipping it. Similarly, for some people you can say you are driving, but for me, everyone knows I limit myself to two drinks (or occasionally three if it is a long night!) so having nothing and saying I was the desginated driver would still draw suspicion. Still others can just say, eh, don't feel like it and because they're not a big drinker it totally works for them. Anyway, OP, how'd it go??? |
Anonymous
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I found out I was pregnant the day of my 30th birthday party. Needlesss to say, we were not ready to start telling people and if I weren't drinking at my own party, everyone would jump to the (correct) conclusion very quickly.
Make sure your husband stays close by to help you. I agree with the wine - just bring the glass to your lips. No one will notice that your glass isn't getting any less full or that you aren't refreshing. Or go to the bathroom and pour some out every once in awhile. Try to relax and have fun. Remember that if everyone else is drinking, they aren't going to notice that you aren't! |
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I found recipes for some fun holiday cocktails, and since we're going to be hosting a few gatherings, my idea for when we have guests is make the batch of the alcoholic version and then make a smaller batch of the same cocktail but virgin, for yourself. Whenever you go to kitchen to get refills for guests, top yours off with the non-alcoholic version. No one will be the wiser! 
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Anonymous
Haha! Funny story--I did this. Made non-alcoholic margarits for myself and at one point, I offered one to someone and her response was, "Hmm ... I haven't had a margarita in years but I usually hate tequila. Can I taste yours?" I let her and (not surprisingly) she says, "Mmmm! I can't even taste the tequila! I'll definitely have that!" So when I went to make hers, I mixed the real margaritas with my fake one so she'd have some alcohol but not much. She didn't say a word fortunately. We both laughed hysterically when I told her the story two months later! |
Anonymous
Here too!! I was at a happy hour celebration thing in my office and didn't drink and one of my employees yelled "You're pregnant!" in front of pretty much the whole company. When you are of a certain age, martital status, etc. people who know you are on the lookout for what you are or are not drinking. I was pretty close to being ready to out myself soon but was disappointed that I didn't get to be the one to surprise everyone. Except that I then go to say "with twins!" Contrats! 
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Anonymous
LOVE this story! |