Tired of sleepovers

[Anonymous]

The ten year old yes sleepovers are still a pain and I only allow if not sports next day. 13 year old is no problem. I also don’t allow if sports next day but way more liberal otherwise. The girls watch movies and FaceTime friends. No issues at all. Even clothes because sleepover buddy just wears my dd stuff if it was last minute

[Anonymous]

For us, about 95% of sleepovers are at my house and there are sleepovers probably 5 nights a week. So I keep everything that any kid would need and there is no scrambling. If someone wants something special, they call their parents who usually say no. But occasionally a parent will drop of the requested item.

I’ve also taught them all to make breakfast so they are on their own. And the guests always make sure my kitchen is cleaned up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For us, about 95% of sleepovers are at my house and there are sleepovers probably 5 nights a week. So I keep everything that any kid would need and there is no scrambling. If someone wants something special, they call their parents who usually say no. But occasionally a parent will drop of the requested item.

I’ve also taught them all to make breakfast so they are on their own. And the guests always make sure my kitchen is cleaned up.

5 nights a week?? How do manage alone time with the hubby?!

[Anonymous]

My son hates sleepovers. He plays a ton of sports and this summer is taking an extra class to get ahead in school. Nobody in his friend circle really does sleepovers. Many of them are doing summer sports and sports camps. Lots of socializing all day leaves them tired at night.

[Anonymous]

I hate sleepovers also! Try to avoid as much as possible. Thought they would end by HS!

[Anonymous]

Last minute sleepovers at our house are low key- they eat whatever we already planned on eating and whatever is in the house, they borrow PJs, etc. While the next day attitude is a pain, I think about what my kids must unknowingly go through when my DH or I (or both) had a late night ourselves. Plus, they’re only kids once.

[Anonymous]

Say no

[Anonymous]

I think I know who posted this. My kids really enjoy hanging out with your boys. We were blessed to find kids that live so close in the same age group so I appreciate your willingness to let them sleepover.

[Anonymous]

It's summer. Let the kids have fun! Last minute sleepovers were so exciting as a kid. The scrambling to get your stuff & chatter about what we'd do late at night was awesome. Stop being a buzzkill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My HS kid and group of 4 boys are constantly at one house or another, and sleep overs planned at the last minute. Why does this bother you so much? Let go and let them make their own plans - as long as you touch base with and know/trust the parents and the kids, it's fine. Freeing actually, because they are finally in charge of their own schedules instead of you. MS daughter does the same. Every once in a while they both and up sleeping over and DH and I have our own date night! More often, as soon as one finds out the other won't be home, the sleep over for the other is at our home...

Same. My teen didnt do sleepovers at all in 9th grade and I thought whew, they outgrew it! This summer BAM - 4 boys all the time. They get up early to go to work or drivers ed or sports and repeat. Two have girlfriends who leave at a normal hour. No coed sleepovers but boys are facetiming with them and their friends until 1 am and then pass out. Thankfully by HS they are great at keeping things neat, wet towels are washed and dried and while I have lots of ready to go food/snacks they help themselves and load dishwasher etc. And when the girls are here they bake lol. I get to indulge and girls give me the gossip. So, there's an upside!

This is us too. I worry about zero things. I have a pile of blankets and pillows in the basement, but don't worry about pajamas, sleeping bags, toothbrushes. I 'think' they sleep in there clothes or underwear, but they are old enugh to figure it out. I don't check with the other moms, just ask to make sure they've asked. Sometimes the other moms will text, sometimes not. As long as they don't wake me up and clean up their mess in the morning I like that I know where they are!

Now, this is summer. During school, no.

[Anonymous]

Some will probably disagree or challenge me on this. But our 17 yo son's BFF is a girl the same age as him who he's been friends with since they were 4. She still stays overnight at our house quite often (I guess you could call that a sleepover) especially during summer. Having her over has always been a delight. The four of us will eat dinner together then watch TV or play a board game together in the evening. They'll spend the night just playing video games, watching movies and generally just chilling out together. When they decide to go to sleep she sleeps in our guest room downstairs. Maybe they're an outlier but they are just friends. Our son isn't sexually active, doesn't have a girlfriend, isn't vaping or taking drugs. It's always a pleasure having her over and I'm happy for it to continue.

[Anonymous]

I hate sleepovers and resent parents who keep asking for them. The kids are a mess the next day, parents let the kids use their phones all night, and the constant begging is such a pain.

[Anonymous]

Sleepovers are a PITA. So happy when that phase ended.

[Anonymous]

No sleepovers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some will probably disagree or challenge me on this. But our 17 yo son's BFF is a girl the same age as him who he's been friends with since they were 4. She still stays overnight at our house quite often (I guess you could call that a sleepover) especially during summer. Having her over has always been a delight. The four of us will eat dinner together then watch TV or play a board game together in the evening. They'll spend the night just playing video games, watching movies and generally just chilling out together. When they decide to go to sleep she sleeps in our guest room downstairs. Maybe they're an outlier but they are just friends. Our son isn't sexually active, doesn't have a girlfriend, isn't vaping or taking drugs. It's always a pleasure having her over and I'm happy for it to continue.

Lovely.