Has anyone found friendship with a Director of admissions to be an advantage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we met a friend of friend who was director of admissions. DS had already applied, but not yet accepted. He was accepted.

Which college?

Are you serious? Only one director per school. I doubt pp will out him/her, do you?

Stop discouraging pp from answering. Please shut up.

Boy, you are as dumb as you sound. Lol

[Anonymous]

No. A Director or anyone else in the office will recuse themselves.

It is different if it is a wealthy alum who makes calls. But admissions gets annoyed because it screws up their processes, which are in place for very good reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we met a friend of friend who was director of admissions. DS had already applied, but not yet accepted. He was accepted.

Which college?

Are you serious? Only one director per school. I doubt pp will out him/her, do you?

Stop discouraging pp from answering. Please shut up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. A Director or anyone else in the office will recuse themselves.

It is different if it is a wealthy alum who makes calls. But admissions gets annoyed because it screws up their processes, which are in place for very good reasons.

Welcome to the real world. It is not how much you know but who you know.

I work at a financial service company and I’ve been informed many times to hire interns who are kids of high level management people of the company over kids that are qualified for the internships. It is nothing new here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a creepy discussion.

Your child should to to school where they earn acceptance.

And you should befriend people that you like, because they have merit as human beings.

OP's spouse is friends with this person and knew the person before this person was involved in admissions. They didn't befriend the person to get a benefit. There are many kids who don't get accepted who are equally as qualified as those who were accepted. If my kid had stats that were within the acceptance range, and they got selected over someone with similar stats because I knew someone, I wouldn't feel like they didn't earn admissions.

[Anonymous]

Oh, and that sounds fair to you?

Interesting mental gymnastics.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That person will likely recuse themselves from any discussion of consideration of your kid.

How do you know that? There are many things going behind the scene that you just do not know.

I teach golf at a high end country club in the DMV and one of my students is a CFO of a fortune 100 company. During one of the lessons, he asked about my family and I told him that my DD is applying to one of Ivies and I think she has zero chance of getting accepted. It just happened the CFO also attended that Ivy school and he made a few calls to the admission office and the school president. Next thing I know, my DD got accepted.

White privilege, no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. A Director or anyone else in the office will recuse themselves.

It is different if it is a wealthy alum who makes calls. But admissions gets annoyed because it screws up their processes, which are in place for very good reasons.

Welcome to the real world. It is not how much you know but who you know.

I work at a financial service company and I’ve been informed many times to hire interns who are kids of high level management people of the company over kids that are qualified for the internships. It is nothing new here.

Not a wise policy from a potential lawsuit perspective probably .

[Anonymous]

Professional courtesy. It’s everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Professional courtesy. It’s everywhere.

I meant it’s in every profession.

[Anonymous]

"Professional courtesy"

=old boy network

=corruption

[Anonymous]

=nepotism

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. A Director or anyone else in the office will recuse themselves.

It is different if it is a wealthy alum who makes calls. But admissions gets annoyed because it screws up their processes, which are in place for very good reasons.

Welcome to the real world. It is not how much you know but who you know.

I work at a financial service company and I’ve been informed many times to hire interns who are kids of high level management people of the company over kids that are qualified for the internships. It is nothing new here.

I also work at a financial service company and we have a rule against hiring relatives of people above a certain level.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. A Director or anyone else in the office will recuse themselves.

It is different if it is a wealthy alum who makes calls. But admissions gets annoyed because it screws up their processes, which are in place for very good reasons.

Welcome to the real world. It is not how much you know but who you know.

I work at a financial service company and I’ve been informed many times to hire interns who are kids of high level management people of the company over kids that are qualified for the internships. It is nothing new here.

I also work at a financial service company and we have a rule against hiring relatives of people above a certain level.

Why would you have a rule against hiring at a certain level in the first place? If people were angels, such rules would be unnecessary. There are rules cuz people do in fact hire relatives above a certain level. Read between the lines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a creepy discussion.

Your child should to to school where they earn acceptance.

And you should befriend people that you like, because they have merit as human beings.

OP. My spouse became good friends with this person 30 years prior to our child applying.