Baby shower gift etiquette

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow so tacky. I would write the host and say you are so sorry, you weren’t aware that it’s a ticketed event, and it’s not in your budget. Drop off your friend’s Gift later.

But I feel like this is punishing the friend instead of the “host”. Go to the shower, bring your gift, and tell the “host” you’re not paying $60.

Or you could do this. Just "forget" to pay when you leave.

[Anonymous]

That is unbelievable!

This is one of the reasons I didn't want a baby shower; I'd hate to think one of my friends would do something like that to my other friends (while I can't think of any friends who I think would do something like this, I guess you never know! ). I also didn't want people to feel obligated to purchase gifts. If they wanted to do so that's great, but I didn't want them to feel obligated.

[Anonymous]

"Sorry, but I would not have accepted if I had known there was an admission charge -- I thought you were hosting. Do you want to change this to a potluck? I'd be happy to bring a dish to pass. Otherwise, it will just be me and my gift for Nandia. I know she's looking forward to seeing all of us!"

[Anonymous]

I would give gift but not attend shower and would tell hervwhy unbelievable !

[Anonymous]

I would respond,
This is the first time it was mentioned that you are expecting us each to contribute $60. I'm sorry, but that's not in my budget, and if you had mentioned it prior to this, I would have recommended that we do a potluck or another more affordable option to celebrate Larla and her new baby.

Given that this isn't in my budget, how would you like to proceed? Would you prefer that I decline and give Larla the gift I've purchased for her at another date?

[Anonymous]

I would actually reply to the host and let her know that she accidentally sent this message out to the entire guest list, rather than to her co-hosts. If she replies and tells you it was not accidental, I would share with her that this information should have been shared with the invitees at the time of the actual invite and is not proper etiquette. My guess is girl got in over her head with the planning and is trying to cover her expense. I wouldn't pay it.

[Anonymous]

Drop off your gift and don’t offer to contribute or attend. If the host was having problems paying she should have asked earlier for ppl to volunteer bringing things. Not this bait and switch.

And if you can’t afford it upfront don’t host some ridiculous 60 person a head shower. That’s excessive.

[Anonymous]

If it’s not in a person’s home or a catering venue, I’d pay. It should have been on invitation as part of rsvp though.

[Anonymous]

Who sends this info the night before? And spends 60 bucks a person?

[Anonymous]

OP how'd it go!?

[Anonymous]

lol I just can't .
Super tacky.
I'm planning my baby shower with my friend (host) I'm making sure I'm catering food,Drinks and Paid for the place.
not mentioned flowers and party gifts. My baby shower will cost me around $1000 besides drinks for 70 people. which i will have to strech depending what I want to serve.

I wouldn't ever ask for someone to pay $60 to come to any of my events if its not a fundraiser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol I just can't .
Super tacky.
I'm planning my baby shower with my friend (host) I'm making sure I'm catering food,Drinks and Paid for the place.
not mentioned flowers and party gifts. My baby shower will cost me around $1000 besides drinks for 70 people. which i will have to strech depending what I want to serve.

I wouldn't ever ask for someone to pay $60 to come to any of my events if its not a fundraiser.

70 person baby shower?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:lol I just can't .
Super tacky.
I'm planning my baby shower with my friend (host) I'm making sure I'm catering food,Drinks and Paid for the place.
not mentioned flowers and party gifts. My baby shower will cost me around $1000 besides drinks for 70 people. which i will have to strech depending what I want to serve.

I wouldn't ever ask for someone to pay $60 to come to any of my events if its not a fundraiser.

70 person baby shower?

You can't really throw a 70 person rented-venue catered party for 1000 dollars. I'd cut the guest list and have fewer people.

[Anonymous]

OP how did it go?

[Anonymous]

This is like the bride who charged bridesmaids $500 per dress. They found out later their dresses we're only $200. The bride was overcharging to cover the cost of her dress!