Why do teens become surly and grumpy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't ever remember being grumpy or rude. I remember constantly fighting with my parents over boundaries, freedoms and that stuff. I remember challenging authorities and teachers and thinking if I could research my arguments and stand firm then I would win. I remember being so pissed off if some teachers thought I was bratty rather than made a good argument. I didn't learn to read my audience and incorporate tone until I was an older teen.

This sounds like the definition of grumpy and rude.

Trying to figure out how to assert independence. An important task - but sooo annoying when you are the authority figure

[Anonymous]

Constant horniness.

And simultaneously the inability to constantly masturbate.

[Anonymous]

Hormones
Puberty/growth spurts
Sleep cycles out of sync with their schedules--teens would often naturally go to bed later and sleep in more, but MS and HS starts pretty early. Add that they just aren't getting enough sleep because they are up late with activities and homework and whatnot and still having to get up early, and you've got tired, cranky kids.
Pressure--anxiety, identity issues, making a transition from being a kid to being an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's a weaning process. Imagine hunter-gatherer societies or even pre-industrial agricultural societies. The kids leave the nest at this age. They want to get out, and you want them out. They are already hunting, gathering, marrying or apprenticing. They are adults in the eyes of all.

But our society has changed so much, that there is no way to really thrive if you are leave your parents' house at 13-15.

If this is the problem then the obvious solution is boarding school!