Still not over an emotional affair from over six years ago

[Anonymous]

EA six years ago, you have a 6yo kid, I'd be getting a paternity test on that kid if I were you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you get out of holding onto an emotional (not physical) affair from six years ago? You're clinging to it for some reason, what is it doing for you that you're not ready to give up?

I am not a forgiving person. I am never been attached to much, except for her. I just felt completely disrespected, which is also something that I really don't deal with well.

It sounds like your reason for holding onto it may be because it lets you blame her for your emotional issues rather than having to truly take responsibility for them yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly is an Emotional Affair....??!

And how can people be sure that no kissing was ever involved.

I don’t get it.

It's the most a cheater will admit to when caught with texts that don't actually mention the sex they've had. Oh, we just flirted a little. Nothing else happened, I swear it didn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:EA six years ago, you have a 6yo kid, I'd be getting a paternity test on that kid if I were you.

That seems so obvious I avoided posting it myself. having a hard time getting pregnant together so she calls in some help? It happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly is an Emotional Affair....??!

And how can people be sure that no kissing was ever involved.

I don’t get it.

It's a ridiculous notion that gets a lot of air time here. You either had sex with someone outside of your marriage or you didn't. If you did, that's an affair. If you didn't, it's not. Either way, whether this guy's wife had sex with another guy or not, it's time to move on or move out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly is an Emotional Affair....??!

And how can people be sure that no kissing was ever involved.

I don’t get it.

It's a ridiculous notion that gets a lot of air time here. You either had sex with someone outside of your marriage or you didn't. If you did, that's an affair. If you didn't, it's not. Either way, whether this guy's wife had sex with another guy or not, it's time to move on or move out.

I'll put it this way. Cheating can occur without full sex.

[Anonymous]

OP, this is six years forward and it still hurts. I agree with the idea to get a paternity test. But just the way you write, I wonder if this marriage simply cannot be fixed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly is an Emotional Affair....??!

And how can people be sure that no kissing was ever involved.

I don’t get it.

It's a ridiculous notion that gets a lot of air time here. You either had sex with someone outside of your marriage or you didn't. If you did, that's an affair. If you didn't, it's not. Either way, whether this guy's wife had sex with another guy or not, it's time to move on or move out.

I'll put it this way. Cheating can occur without full sex.

Call it whatever you want, but you fix what’s broken and get on with it, or you go your separate ways.

[Anonymous]

Do you feel like your wife showed remorse and tried to make amends? If she didn’t do those things, that may explain why you don’t feel like you’ve moved on.