34 years ago, a woman ghosted me. I still wonder why.

[Anonymous]

OP, everyone on this forum, no matter how gorgeous or desirable has experienced rejection. Buy why now? What has triggered you to think about her? As we get older, we should realize that there are 500,000 reasons someone decides not to be with us.

She wasn't ready, didn't want to hurt your feelings because she thought you were a nice guy, and figured that through ghosting you would eventually meet the right girl.

[Anonymous]

You were not a keeper to her. Possibly you were a creeper, as you are writing about this 23 years later. I'd ghost you too.

[Anonymous]

Is she alive? There are a million reasons why. It would easy to find her, if she has any kind of online presence. But, 23 years is a really long time to be thinking about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she alive? There are a million reasons why. It would easy to find her, if she has any kind of online presence. But, 23 years is a really long time to be thinking about it.

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[Anonymous]

Any chance she dropped dead and you weren’t made aware of it?

[Anonymous]

I think you know why. We all know why, you posted it in your OP.

[Anonymous]

She might have unexpectedly died.

Freshman year, I had a complicated relationship (not romantic) with a girl that suddenly stopped responding to my phone messages and letters over the summer. In August, I stopped trying. I figured that she couldn’t get past our issue and didn’t want to be friends or talk about the situation. She didn’t return for the fall semester.

Many years later, a mutual acquaintance told me that she was diagnosed with lupus in late May and died six weeks later of multiple organ failure. Her parents were too shocked to notify anyone. The acquaintance only knew because they lived in the same small town. If I had walked in a different entrance of a mall, I wouldn’t have bumped into the other woman and would always think the dead girl had cut me out of her life.