For those whose SOs constantly travel for work

[Anonymous]

Dh made enough money traveling in his 30/40s that he quit work at age 50. A bit part of the reason was that he felt unhealthy -- too much stress, no time to exercise or even enjoy life. He worked in finance and was increasingly the oldest one at meetings, not every career is meant to go to age 65.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh made enough money traveling in his 30/40s that he quit work at age 50. A bit part of the reason was that he felt unhealthy -- too much stress, no time to exercise or even enjoy life. He worked in finance and was increasingly the oldest one at meetings, not every career is meant to go to age 65.

When I’m 50 my DDs will be in college. Did he have kids later so he got to be home with them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, I get out of relationships with people who judge my lifestyle or marriage as unhealthy simply because DH travels for work.

Second, I’m a capable adult, and I know how to take care of myself and my children without someone holding my hand. So I do that.

Third, it makes the time that we’re all together even more valuable, so we appreciate it more and make good use of it. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that.

you sound really defensive.

Op, my DH was in big law and while he didn’t travel much, he was still gone from home a ton and it definitely took its toll. Yes I’m a “capable adult” and he was “all in” when he was home, but it still wasn’t the relationship we wanted for ourselves or our kids, so he found a new job and it’s MUCH better.

Someone comes on and says some ignorant, critical, blanket statement, i respond by saying I deal with it by adulting, and I’m defensive? If it doesn’t work for you, change it. You did the right thing. Not everyone has the same needs. It doesn’t mean we’re unhealthy. How small minded.

[Anonymous]

My wife was traveling 2-3 times a month, 3-4 days at a time. I stepped up and did more, it was fine. Got to watch whatever I wanted on TV and eat crap that my wife would never have in the house. Now her travel has slowed down and mine has picked up a bit, so the roles are reversed for a while. It all evens out in the end.