Husband doesn’t clean up after himself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In your calmest voice tell him that you are upset about his inability to clean up after himself and that he needs to get his shit together because you are damn well done picking up after his lazy ass and am tired of his lack of respect for you since I'm not a god damn maid. And if he still doesn't stop thats when the b*tch face comes out and you express yourself in vulgarity and tell him to stop being a f***ing pig.

It fascinates me that anyone suggests acting like a complete c*nt to a husband. Does that ever work out well for you?

[Anonymous]

How old are your kids, OP? First, start by requiring each of them to clean up after each other. Put their plates in the dishwasher, throw away an empty box of cereal or return a full one to the cabinet, etc. Even if they aren't preparing the food yet, they can run for you.

Next, acknowledge to DH that he wasn't taught this as a child, but you really need his help to keep things together and teach the kids good habits. Institute family cleanup time. My kids get annoyed when they end up cleaning up after DH! (Dad left that out! Doesn't matter, we all clean up so please put it away.) DH has improved...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In your calmest voice tell him that you are upset about his inability to clean up after himself and that he needs to get his shit together because you are damn well done picking up after his lazy ass and am tired of his lack of respect for you since I'm not a god damn maid. And if he still doesn't stop thats when the b*tch face comes out and you express yourself in vulgarity and tell him to stop being a f***ing pig.

It fascinates me that anyone suggests acting like a complete c*nt to a husband. Does that ever work out well for you?

My husband says yes it does. It's much better then holding it in and bitching on a forum and having resentment towards a spouse. See the issue is everyone wants to hold hands and sing kumbaya which gets nothing solved. Confront the issue and show them your upset. Hugging solves nothing and going to therapy over your spouse not cleaning up after himself. Serious people stop the shit and trying to be calm.

I appreciate it when my husband can look me in the face and tell me I'm acting like a bitch instead of him feeling like he cant really tell me how he feels or having to say it in a PC way in fear of upsetting me. My marriage is 100% better them most because were honest with each other because of our open and honest communication.