MEN - please answer three quick questions

[Anonymous]

Several posters have mentioned “smell great”, are you referring to their natural smell or the smell of lotions/fragrance, or perhaps something else?

[Anonymous]

1) Kinder, gentler, good manners.
2) Sentimental
3)Good in bed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Several posters have mentioned “smell great”, are you referring to their natural smell or the smell of lotions/fragrance, or perhaps something else?

Natural scent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi-
I'm doing my homework for a course on romantic courage. It's due tomorrow. I need answers from men only:

1. What do you love about women?
2. What don't you love about women?
3. If you had to pick one from a women, which do you prefer: great sense of humor or good in bed?

Thanks!

What I love about them is mostly sensory - the way they look, smell, and feel. I know it's superficial, but the lips, hips, hair, and boobs drive me wild. The feel of their skin. The smell of their bodies. Even their taste. All of it is terrific.

I don't love the anxiety they make me feel about myself. Do they like me? Find me attractive? Am I acting weird? When they do like me - is it just as a friend, or is there a sexual/Romantic connection here. Also, they are more likely to find my interests boring and I'm more likely to find their interests boring than is the case with most men I meet.

Mostly I think good sense of humor and good in bed are going to go hand-in-hand. Sure, a good body helps -- and that's not closely connected to sense of humor -- but the perceptiveness, creativity, and boundary pushing that leads to a good sense of humor is going to make for a good sex partner. I just can't bring myself to give a straight one or the other answer to this one. Short-term, good in bed would be my pick. For a long term relationship, sense of humor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Several posters have mentioned “smell great”, are you referring to their natural smell or the smell of lotions/fragrance, or perhaps something else?

All of the above.

[Anonymous]

1) the caring nature -- many have the instinct to help others
2) indirect communications/passive agressive.
3) Definitely humor. And it is not close

[Anonymous]

1. I love how women find and express their emotions, and I am basing this view solely on my own personal experience with women in my life.
2. I am not trying to be cute, but number one is a two-edged sword. The imbalance is frustrating. I am trying to get better and understanding my feelings and where they are coming from. There are times I am grateful that I don’t feel things as automatically as my wife, sister, mother, female friends and colleagues do.
3. I don’t like your third question because it’s seldom all-or-nothing, and it’s not clear if it’s about quantity or quality. If the choice is having sex with my wife or not having sex with my wife, I’ll take having sex with my wife. If she couldn’t laugh at herself, I never would have spent time with her. To me that’s the most important personal quality.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think all responders are men. A perfect example of question 2. Women just don’t know when to STFU.

I think your mom needs help bringing in the groceries.

Meaning what? I don’t get what you are saying.

She’s saying you are juvenile probably because you presumably wrote women just don’t when to STFU.

I’m a man, but I am tired of seeing other men look for every opportunity on this forum to attack women. I realize that it comes the other way, too. But if you are a man who feels a general, powerful hatred toward women, please find a therapist this week. This is unhealthy for you and those around you. You can say anything you want about me, as long as you address the anger you carry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi-
I'm doing my homework for a course on romantic courage. It's due tomorrow. I need answers from men only:

1. What do you love about women?
2. What don't you love about women?
3. If you had to pick one from a women, which do you prefer: great sense of humor or good in bed?

Thanks!

1. Nothing
2. Everything
3. My preference doesn't matter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Several posters have mentioned “smell great”, are you referring to their natural smell or the smell of lotions/fragrance, or perhaps something else?

Bath and body works

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think all responders are men. A perfect example of question 2. Women just don’t know when to STFU.

I think your mom needs help bringing in the groceries.

Meaning what? I don’t get what you are saying.

She’s saying you are juvenile probably because you presumably wrote women just don’t when to STFU.

I’m a man, but I am tired of seeing other men look for every opportunity on this forum to attack women. I realize that it comes the other way, too. But if you are a man who feels a general, powerful hatred toward women, please find a therapist this week. This is unhealthy for you and those around you. You can say anything you want about me, as long as you address the anger you carry.

I feel no hatred toward women. I love women. But in general, they can talk about absolute nothing for a really long time and be totally unaware. As an example, note the number of topics regarding being ignored or a DH being stupid because he was told something andnhe forgot. He didn't forget, she had been tuned out. It is an issue. If you haven't noticed, consider yourself lucky.

[Anonymous]

1. body shape, love running my hand along the curves
2. why does everything have to be hyper analyzed and problems created where they do not exist?
3. good in bed. I am high drive and need to have that satisfied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi-
I'm doing my homework for a course on romantic courage. It's due tomorrow. I need answers from men only:

1. What do you love about women?
2. What don't you love about women?
3. If you had to pick one from a women, which do you prefer: great sense of humor or good in bed?

Thanks!

What I love about them is mostly sensory - the way they look, smell, and feel. I know it's superficial, but the lips, hips, hair, and boobs drive me wild. The feel of their skin. The smell of their bodies. Even their taste. All of it is terrific.

I don't love the anxiety they make me feel about myself. Do they like me? Find me attractive? Am I acting weird? When they do like me - is it just as a friend, or is there a sexual/Romantic connection here. Also, they are more likely to find my interests boring and I'm more likely to find their interests boring than is the case with most men I meet.

Mostly I think good sense of humor and good in bed are going to go hand-in-hand. Sure, a good body helps -- and that's not closely connected to sense of humor -- but the perceptiveness, creativity, and boundary pushing that leads to a good sense of humor is going to make for a good sex partner. I just can't bring myself to give a straight one or the other answer to this one. Short-term, good in bed would be my pick. For a long term relationship, sense of humor.

This is more about you than about women. They don’t make you feel insecure, you *are* insecure. They may pick up on that, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think all responders are men. A perfect example of question 2. Women just don’t know when to STFU.

I think your mom needs help bringing in the groceries.

Meaning what? I don’t get what you are saying.

She’s saying you are juvenile probably because you presumably wrote women just don’t when to STFU.

I’m a man, but I am tired of seeing other men look for every opportunity on this forum to attack women. I realize that it comes the other way, too. But if you are a man who feels a general, powerful hatred toward women, please find a therapist this week. This is unhealthy for you and those around you. You can say anything you want about me, as long as you address the anger you carry.

Sir Galahad, when you're done tipping your fedora to m'lady, maybe you ought to take note of the fact that the overwhelming number of gendered attacks on DCUM are by women against men. Men are babies, men are incompetent, men are lazy, blah blah blah.

[Anonymous]

3. I’m not going to choose. I don’t have to.