playdate conversations

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not meant to be mean, but are the posters who ask these kinds of questions usually socially awkward in general? It's never occurred to me that I wouldn't be able to hold a conversation with another adult. Do you hide in corners at parties? Are you unable to make small talk with coworkers about things other than work? Just talk to them. You might even make a new friend!

This is not to be mean, but do you get that the extroverts/gregarious people often come off as self-focused attention-seekers who are exhausting to be around, and ask personal questions in 2.5 seconds of knowing someone? Do you ever think about toning it down? People might like a break!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not meant to be mean, but are the posters who ask these kinds of questions usually socially awkward in general? It's never occurred to me that I wouldn't be able to hold a conversation with another adult. Do you hide in corners at parties? Are you unable to make small talk with coworkers about things other than work? Just talk to them. You might even make a new friend!

This is not to be mean, but do you get that the extroverts/gregarious people often come off as self-focused attention-seekers who are exhausting to be around, and ask personal questions in 2.5 seconds of knowing someone? Do you ever think about toning it down? People might like a break!

Huh? I’m an introvert through and through but I don’t need a “break” from talking to my friends when I’m in public. I take my breaks at home. I don’t make plans with a friend and then need a break from her DURING the play date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not meant to be mean, but are the posters who ask these kinds of questions usually socially awkward in general? It's never occurred to me that I wouldn't be able to hold a conversation with another adult. Do you hide in corners at parties? Are you unable to make small talk with coworkers about things other than work? Just talk to them. You might even make a new friend!

This is not to be mean, but do you get that the extroverts/gregarious people often come off as self-focused attention-seekers who are exhausting to be around, and ask personal questions in 2.5 seconds of knowing someone? Do you ever think about toning it down? People might like a break!

Man if you think pleasant conversation about school, play spaces, the weather, the area, other random things you have in common with this person purely by living in the same place and having a child of the same age is being self-focused and seeking attention you need to seek help with the social anxiety. This is not a normal reaction to someone wanting to make normal conversation with you.

[Anonymous]

I have come a long way from my shy and introverted days, and usually can connect with other parents and find topics of conversation, but sometimes... it's uphill work! I can't exactly put my finger on the cause, but occasionally we just don't click, and then it becomes awkward.

[Anonymous]

I miss those days. We talked about the damage done to our bodies, very graphically, how we were too exhausted to have sex and what to do about it, husband idiosyncrasies, thinking about divorce vs counseling. You name it.