Spouse becoming more clingy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not divorce? I mean if you don't want to be with him, what' left in that relationship?

DP. I guess I and all my friends better divorce... we love getting away for a girls weekend without our husbands. I also prefer to exercise alone. I am an introvert and alone time is how I recharge.

[Anonymous]

How old are these young adult children? Part of it may be that now that you’re both free of the work of child-rearing, he’s looking to get back to the kind of relationship you had pre-kids where you could do more together just the two of you.

Also, if having your adult children living at home is indirectly putting a strain on your marriage (because they’re taking up your time/energy and then you’re feeling too tapped out to give any to your husband), it may be time to reassess whether this living situation is working for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What may be coming across in a way that is making some posters uncomfortable is language in the OP describing her husband's behavior as "even more irritating."

OP, my question for you is: why are you perplexed and upset by your DH's behavior when you know the answer has a lot to do with his health scares? There's no real mystery here. Why is it mysterious to you? Additionally, you're clearly upset, and to the point where you're describing your DH's behavior in terms that express distaste for him.

You wrote to ask for perspective, and I hope you find this perspective helpful as you think through these changes in your relationship with your husband and with yourself.
Good luck, I hope you find your answers.

All you did was paraphrase what other people wrote. You provided no new perspective to Op at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Most women my age, 63, would like their husbands to spend time with them rather than playing golf or watching tv. I can’t fathom going away on a weekend for alone time.

OP again. I am curious how you feel you speak for "most women". I know lots of women like myself who love getting away independently.

Then there's something wrong with your marriage. I think it's a very odd post.

- DP

NP. On the flip side, I think you sound codependent and pitiful.