play dates if you struggle with social norms

[Anonymous]

OP here. DH thinks it's weird to hand a note, and there's no email list.

So back to square one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They're both young 5's.

My mom did suggest a playground. Maybe that would be easier.

5 would be drop off. If the mom has never met you, she might not be comfortable sending her child to your home. I have a 5 in preschool, and I just drive the play date home from preschool with us, and then the mom picks the kid up two hours later. Playground meetup would be good too.

[Anonymous]

How about emailing the teachers and ask for the mom and the dads email address? Maybe have your husband reach out and you all can go to the playground together. I’m sure the school can give you an email address or cell phone number to text. Give it a try! You may be surprised and even make a new friend yourself. I know it can be awkward but so worth it for your child.

[Anonymous]

I have asked my DD’s preschool rather than notes.

[Anonymous]

^^ preschool for email addresses

[Anonymous]

I'm socially awkward as well. I don't like small talk or being around people I don't know well. The very first playdate was weird. We just kinda sat and stared at each other. I think I pretended to be interested in their conversation well enough because they invited us to another one.

Usually you just approach the parent and ask. You could invite two kids just to split the stress. Some parents will stay if they want to get to know you. Others will jump at the chance of free time, and you'll have to hope they come back. It just depends. Ask the teacher to pass your message along. That's how we got invited. I think DD's teacher picked up on my awkwardness, so she did the leg work for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. DH thinks it's weird to hand a note, and there's no email list.

So back to square one.

No, tell him to suck it up and hand the note. Seriously.