How to overcome fear of having a second kid when first one was so hard

[Anonymous]

If I’d had my second first I would have wondered WTF was wrong with my first. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

We had a super hard infant with colic, sleeping problems, having to be held non stop. Waited 7 years, had a second, harder than the first but in different ways. All worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think everyone does. And those of us who don't eventually learn to embrace our smaller families. Just putting that out there in case you need permission to feel something other than elation at "biting the bullet."

This. It's okay to just admit that having more kids is too difficult for your family situation.

[Anonymous]

You throw money at the problem.

At least that’s what we do. We have help 7 days a week and spend a sickening amount on childcare. For me it’s the only way.

[Anonymous]

Our first was also difficult (colic/reflux/crappy sleeper) and BF was a struggle (for the 4 months I managed it).

Then my second in comparison seemed like such an easy baby! BF was easier. He was one of those chill babies who would just sleep in the wrap on me. Barely fussed.

I think the transition to 2 was easier for DH and I than other friends who had an easy first baby. Of course there are new challenges in balancing 2 kids and the first 6 months in particular are hard.

But the second time around we have more perspective. Even during the hard times we now know it’s just a phase that will pass. Plus as the youngest gets older and they play together, I’m finding it even easier than 1.