New relationship, now he may be moving. Advice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not try long distance for a while and see how the relationship progresses? Breaking up seems premature. Arrange to see each other once a month or so and see how it goes.

This.

[Anonymous]

Guy : move on. You have so many other options and they aren’t moving away. Long distance and then mixing families ? The likelihood that this has a happy ending is barely above zero. There is no ‘one’ and you’ll be just as happy if not happier with someone else.

[Anonymous]

As someone else said, he would not have applied for the job if he was into you. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not try long distance for a while and see how the relationship progresses? Breaking up seems premature. Arrange to see each other once a month or so and see how it goes.

This.

+1. And if it is still working as you date long distance before you move out there for him make sure you have already met his daughters. Also consider going to pre-marital counseling (since presumably you would be engaged or close to it before you would move) to make sure you’ve had the tough conversations before you uproot your life and daughter’s life. You don’t want to move out there and find that you can’t agree on the big things you need to agree on to have a happy marriage with a blended family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone else said, he would not have applied for the job if he was into you. Sorry.

good grief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he was into you, he wouldn't take tbe job.

If she was into him, she would move! But that's a silly way to think about it. Op is putting her child first and he is putting his kids first by wanting to be close to them. It doesn't matter how they feel about each other after 6 months, kids come first.

She isnt going to move with no ring. What idiot woukd do that?

Well said there are many decent men out there willing to marry the right woman, go for one more day of day time events with DD and him and one night of wild passion with him to keep your kitty satisfied for a while than bid him farewell to MA. than look for right man in DC

[Anonymous]

Not sure if this has been said, but go to poundtown with him til he leaves. Then hit him up for a workout sesh if travel takes you to his area.

[Anonymous]

OP is any part of you uncomfortable that he even asked if you would relocate? As in...isn't that a tad presumptuous? Of course its all in the details of who you are to each other, and the way he actually asked. But it just feels odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As someone else said, he would not have applied for the job if he was into you. Sorry.

good grief.

If he is paying child support than it stands to reason he is going to apply for jobs that make more money. If it brings him closer to his daughters, its a no brainer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not try long distance for a while and see how the relationship progresses? Breaking up seems premature. Arrange to see each other once a month or so and see how it goes.

This.

+1. And if it is still working as you date long distance before you move out there for him make sure you have already met his daughters. Also consider going to pre-marital counseling (since presumably you would be engaged or close to it before you would move) to make sure you’ve had the tough conversations before you uproot your life and daughter’s life. You don’t want to move out there and find that you can’t agree on the big things you need to agree on to have a happy marriage with a blended family.

This is good advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he was into you, he wouldn't take tbe job.

I don't think that's true since it would move him closer to his daughters. That is always going to come first.

+1. It sounds like he's trying to get closer to his kids. Kids always come first, even if you're married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he was into you, he wouldn't take tbe job.

I don't think that's true since it would move him closer to his daughters. That is always going to come first.

+1. It sounds like he's trying to get closer to his kids. Kids always come first, even if you're married.

only applies to moms/women. as some posters here have shown, when you're a single dad you have to forgo anything you want just to please a woman you're dating. then again, those same women would jump all of the guy for not caring enough about his kids.

damned if you do, damned if you don't.