Would you fire nanny for this?

[Anonymous]

Fire her

[Anonymous]

OP here. I called her and she said my preschooler is making it up. Says she picked them up regular order and brought baby into the office with her. I’m not sure what to believe now. I’m going to ask my kindergartener separately tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Ask the school office.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask the school office.

Exactly. Just call and speak to an adult.

[Anonymous]

Bad judgement. She should have carried the baby, no matter how late, to get the other two.

Are you paying enough to attract more reliable professionals, OP? Because a baby, preschooler and Kindergartner sounds hellish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I called her and she said my preschooler is making it up. Says she picked them up regular order and brought baby into the office with her. I’m not sure what to believe now. I’m going to ask my kindergartener separately tomorrow.

You may not like her and that's enough reason to find someone else.

However, you don't know if she was running errands or had a diaper issue. Kids "lie" all the time, some on purpose, some to make a better story, some fill in gaps with their imagination and some plain ol' make stuff up. Ask your kindergartner with open ended questions, and call and ask the office if they remember seeing the baby at pick up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask the school office.

Exactly. Just call and speak to an adult.

See what the adults at school say - you can check with preschool to see who picked up there (kinder should have been there) and kinder to see if both littles came with nanny to get the big.

I highly doubt BOTH of your children are making up a cohesive story based on nothing.

[Anonymous]

Fired

[Anonymous]

OP - did you follow up this morning?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask the school office.

Exactly. Just call and speak to an adult.

See what the adults at school say - you can check with preschool to see who picked up there (kinder should have been there) and kinder to see if both littles came with nanny to get the big.

I highly doubt BOTH of your children are making up a cohesive story based on nothing.

This. Kids don’t make up cohesive stories that hold up for days at preschool to kinder age.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here-

I see this form both sides. I’m a long term nanny (10+ years with the same family) and last year the preschooler made up a complete lie about me and the Dad pulled me aside to talk about it. He was really upset (lie was along the lines of leaving her alone, which I would never do!!). I’m not sure the parents believed me until a month later the preschooler said she thinks it was a dream. I’m really glad I didn’t get fired, because the story was completely believable and the kid never lies like that.

However, I’d check with the school about the baby as leaving a child in the car is illegal and a fireable offence. Full stop. Nanny should always be 15 mins early for pick up in case things like poop happen. I’m always early and park outside the school and read a book to be safe. For every rat you see there’s 50 you don’t and this nanny probably needs to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here-

I see this form both sides. I’m a long term nanny (10+ years with the same family) and last year the preschooler made up a complete lie about me and the Dad pulled me aside to talk about it. He was really upset (lie was along the lines of leaving her alone, which I would never do!!). I’m not sure the parents believed me until a month later the preschooler said she thinks it was a dream. I’m really glad I didn’t get fired, because the story was completely believable and the kid never lies like that.

However, I’d check with the school about the baby as leaving a child in the car is illegal and a fireable offence. Full stop. Nanny should always be 15 mins early for pick up in case things like poop happen. I’m always early and park outside the school and read a book to be safe. For every rat you see there’s 50 you don’t and this nanny probably needs to go.

+1 This. And if you're at the point where you're making accusations to the nanny that seem believable to you and she's denying them, you're probably at the point of getting a new nanny anyway.

[Anonymous]

YES.

[Anonymous]

You do not need a reason to switch nannies. You don’t click with the nanny and that is reason enough. You question whether the nanny is prioritizing your children or her errands, that is reason enough. For the above, I would give her the severance stated in your contract and not have her come back. I would also get to the bottom of what actually happened by contacting the school, which you can do when you pick your child up today, as I assume the nanny won’t be doing it! If she indeed lied or left your baby in the care of a stranger (or worse, alone in the car) she is fired for cause without severance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely. On the spot. No one should leave a baby in a car.

+1.