Would you fire nanny for this?

[Anonymous]

not ok to leave the baby

[Anonymous]

Yes !!!!! Now!

[Anonymous]

You have to let her go because you're always going to be wondering.

IA, running one or two personal errands is not a big deal, but when personal errands gets in the way of doing their job, they need to go.

I fired an employee on the spot when we found out they were using company resources and time to work their side hustle type job. Think something along the lines as a salesperson who goes to meet clients and then is doing an Uber/Lyft/Instacart job between.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start from the premise of we’re not thrilled with her. She has been running lots of personal errands and just dragging the kids along. I told her that once in a while is okay but that she should be engaging the kids, taking them to the library and playground, doing crafts, etc. But she never lied about what she was doing. Until now...

We have a baby, a preschooler, and a kindergartner. Nanny typically picks up kindergartener, then preschooler. Today my kindergartener said she was so late he had to go wait in the principal’s office. Then my preschooler chimed in that she got to go in with the nanny to pick him up. And when I asked where the baby was, she said they left him in the car. So the nanny switched pick up order, was late, and left my baby in the car. I casually texted her about it and she lied.

She said the baby pooped and so she was a couple minutes late. That wouldn’t explain why my preschooler was there. I think she must have been running an errand and just got the closer kid first because she was running late. I haven’t called her on the lie but I’m furious and wonder how I can trust her in the future.

What would you do?

Can you afford to pay a real nanny?

[Anonymous]

OP, what happened?

[Anonymous]

The lying would make me fire her.

[Anonymous]

We would love an update, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do not need a reason to switch nannies. You don’t click with the nanny and that is reason enough. You question whether the nanny is prioritizing your children or her errands, that is reason enough. For the above, I would give her the severance stated in your contract and not have her come back. I would also get to the bottom of what actually happened by contacting the school, which you can do when you pick your child up today, as I assume the nanny won’t be doing it! If she indeed lied or left your baby in the care of a stranger (or worse, alone in the car) she is fired for cause without severance.

+1 Our 4 year old will say things like "nanny didn't give me any lunch", which I don't have to do anything about except roll my eyes because I KNOW our nanny would never not give her lunch. If you are at the point of believing your preschooler over your nanny without doing your due diligence with the schools to find out what really happened, you probably need a new nanny regardless of whether she did what you've accused her of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We would love an update, OP.

+1

[Anonymous]

You should email the principal and ask him or her since your child was in their office. They would know if baby and preschooler were in that office. If she left baby in car I would fire immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You do not need a reason to switch nannies. You don’t click with the nanny and that is reason enough. You question whether the nanny is prioritizing your children or her errands, that is reason enough. For the above, I would give her the severance stated in your contract and not have her come back. I would also get to the bottom of what actually happened by contacting the school, which you can do when you pick your child up today, as I assume the nanny won’t be doing it! If she indeed lied or left your baby in the care of a stranger (or worse, alone in the car) she is fired for cause without severance.

+1 Our 4 year old will say things like "nanny didn't give me any lunch", which I don't have to do anything about except roll my eyes because I KNOW our nanny would never not give her lunch. If you are at the point of believing your preschooler over your nanny without doing your due diligence with the schools to find out what really happened, you probably need a new nanny regardless of whether she did what you've accused her of.

This!

I had a day off. The person who covered for me allowed my 5yo charge to take just fruit snack, goldfish and popcorn for lunch. Nothing else. Teachers asked where the rest of his lunch was, he said I wouldn’t allow him anything else. Since they know how adamant I am that he has vegetable, fruit and protein available everyday (whether he eats it or not is up to him), they figured it was something else. Teachers reached out to the parent with story and suspicions, parent cleared it up quickly by explaining that I wasn’t working. There’s no way that anyone would take that story as truth, because they know and trust me. They wouldn’t believe I’d endanger or hurt a child either.

If you do think your nanny left your baby in the car, please fire her. You have to be able to trust her!

[Anonymous]

OP here with an update. My preschooler made it up “because she wanted to be part of the story.” We separately asked my kindergartener and he confirmed nanny’s story. Baby came in to pick him up and they all got preschooler afterwards.

So nanny was not fired and the whole thing ended up not being a big deal. We spoke to preschooler about lying. But this did put into focus how I’ve lost trust in nanny so we’ll be letting her go in the next couple months anyway once I can wrap my head around doing another search.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update. My preschooler made it up “because she wanted to be part of the story.” We separately asked my kindergartener and he confirmed nanny’s story. Baby came in to pick him up and they all got preschooler afterwards.

So nanny was not fired and the whole thing ended up not being a big deal. We spoke to preschooler about lying. But this did put into focus how I’ve lost trust in nanny so we’ll be letting her go in the next couple months anyway once I can wrap my head around doing another search.

This doesn't make sense. Your nanny told the truth and your kid lied but, you are still going to fire her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update. My preschooler made it up “because she wanted to be part of the story.” We separately asked my kindergartener and he confirmed nanny’s story. Baby came in to pick him up and they all got preschooler afterwards.

So nanny was not fired and the whole thing ended up not being a big deal. We spoke to preschooler about lying. But this did put into focus how I’ve lost trust in nanny so we’ll be letting her go in the next couple months anyway once I can wrap my head around doing another search.

This doesn't make sense. Your nanny told the truth and your kid lied but, you are still going to fire her?

Not for this incident, obviously. I mentioned already that we have not been happy with her.

[Anonymous]

Yes, my preschooler told the teacher that we dropped her off on the highway and she had to walk home because we were annoyed she was singing too loudly.

She also told the soccer coach that we didn't always feed her but she could get herself a muffin out of the freezer if she had been left home alone and didn't have any food.

This were both complete figments of her very creative imagination. She was just at an age where fact and fiction blur and making up stories was fun (she had no sense of implications of saying those things).