Can a parent hold back a child in K due to immaturity

[Anonymous]

No. This is why a lot of people red shirt if there's even a question. Once the train is out of the station you aren't pulling it back in. Absent a special need or clear academic deficiencies, schools are not adding to their retention rate because mom thinks Liam needs to play better with kids.

[Anonymous]

Guys you can totally send a kid to private K one year and public K the next year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. This is why a lot of people red shirt if there's even a question. Once the train is out of the station you aren't pulling it back in. Absent a special need or clear academic deficiencies, schools are not adding to their retention rate because mom thinks Liam needs to play better with kids.

It’s usually the idea of the private school teachers and they sometimes refuse to promote some kids.

Public school doesn’t care about your kid though - they just want to save a buck. So if your kid is in public youd probably have to pull them out & send them to a private K for a year. Or fill out a petition form but good luck with that because - money.

[Anonymous]

It’s unclear what you’re asking, but many kids do go to private K/a private pre-K program and then repeat the next year in public K. With an August birthday, the kid would do his private K right when he turns 5 and public K right when he turns 6.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys you can totally send a kid to private K one year and public K the next year.

We know that Jan. We are discussing whether a kid can do public K and then repeat it again in public K at the request of a parent simply because parent thinks they're immature. Which would be a no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys you can totally send a kid to private K one year and public K the next year.

We know that Jan. We are discussing whether a kid can do public K and then repeat it again in public K at the request of a parent simply because parent thinks they're immature. Which would be a no.

No we aren’t Becky. OP specifically says private.

[Anonymous]

If the kid is in private, the parents can likely do whatever they want. Keep the kid back there, send him to kindergarten at public school, send him to kindergarten at another private school. This is one of the benefits of private school. Parents have a lot more control. If he had been in public, it would be much more difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not uncommon in both public and private, especially for kids who are already young for the grade. The school has to agree that it's the right course of action, but I know two families who've done it recently in public where it was NBD. In both cases, there were both maturity and academic concerns but the schools were okay with moving the kids ahead. Parents requested that they repeat K and schools were fine with that too. I imagine it's different if there are no concerns, but presumably OP's friend must have some. She'll just have to see if the school shares them.

What if the school doesn’t share the concerns ? A private school could say no. So could a public. So OP is right it seems, not the parents final decision. They can ask but may not receive.

[Anonymous]

They do it all of the time in Baltimore's private schools- they call it pre-first. It would be quite difficult to do it in public school if it is just what the parents wants. I can't even get admin to agree to retention when there are actual issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not uncommon in both public and private, especially for kids who are already young for the grade. The school has to agree that it's the right course of action, but I know two families who've done it recently in public where it was NBD. In both cases, there were both maturity and academic concerns but the schools were okay with moving the kids ahead. Parents requested that they repeat K and schools were fine with that too. I imagine it's different if there are no concerns, but presumably OP's friend must have some. She'll just have to see if the school shares them.

In MCPS is is not common at all. They do not want to have your kid for an extra year unless they think it will be better. Parents can hold back before K but can not get an extra year of K just because they want to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not uncommon in both public and private, especially for kids who are already young for the grade. The school has to agree that it's the right course of action, but I know two families who've done it recently in public where it was NBD. In both cases, there were both maturity and academic concerns but the schools were okay with moving the kids ahead. Parents requested that they repeat K and schools were fine with that too. I imagine it's different if there are no concerns, but presumably OP's friend must have some. She'll just have to see if the school shares them.

What if the school doesn’t share the concerns ? A private school could say no. So could a public. So OP is right it seems, not the parents final decision. They can ask but may not receive.

This.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think many districts will allow a child to have 2 years of public K - even if the kid would maybe be better off retained. But I’ve never known a kid to be denied public K after doing private K. The compulsory age for school attendance is 6. You just register them for K as an already 5.5 year old who will be 6 a bit before the school year starts.

[Anonymous]

Why are any of you even bringing up public or private to another private or private to public transitions.

Per OP this is a kid in private K who is supposed to be going to the same private first. As I see it, the kid’s parents can ask but as a PP said there is no guarantee. Yes, there is a slightly greater likelihood of them saying yes but don’t count on it.

It is NOT the parent’s decision. Agree, that train left the station when they enrolled the kid in private school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not uncommon in both public and private, especially for kids who are already young for the grade. The school has to agree that it's the right course of action, but I know two families who've done it recently in public where it was NBD. In both cases, there were both maturity and academic concerns but the schools were okay with moving the kids ahead. Parents requested that they repeat K and schools were fine with that too. I imagine it's different if there are no concerns, but presumably OP's friend must have some. She'll just have to see if the school shares them.

In MCPS is is not common at all. They do not want to have your kid for an extra year unless they think it will be better. Parents can hold back before K but can not get an extra year of K just because they want to.

Obviously, this would only happen in either private or public if the school thinks an extra year would be better for the child. But there are plenty of situations where they will defer to promoting a kid even when there are concerns, but if a parent raises the issue and asks that the child be retained, there is a decent likelihood that they will be successful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your friend is wrong. You can’t do so unless it’s special needs and you would need documentation. Correct, you may just start K late but once they are in, private or public, they have to follow the natural progression.

This is 100% NOT true. My niece went to private K for a year. Then she went to public K. My sister-in-law didn't have to do anything with the public school but register her. Moco.