C- Section Awareness Month

[Anonymous]

ugh, even the thread about this topic has us tearing each other apart. Never gonna get on top ladies, this petty judgement of others, for having c-sections or starting threads about c-sections, makes us all small...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree / disagree. C sections are common, and in that, no awareness is needed.

What is needed is understanding that it IS major surgery, that having one does not mean a woman “failed” at the mission of giving birth, and helping eliminate the “too posh to push” stigma.

Did anyone in your actual life quesiton or criticize you or anyone else you know who had C-sections? Honestly asking.

NP, I had to have a c section. I had an on going medical issue that required a c section. I was talking with a pretty close friend about it and she said she would never do a c section because it feels like a cop out and your not really delivering a baby. She said this to my face after I told her the reason all my doctors said not to have a c section. Everyone else in my life could care less if I had a baby from a c section or not.

[Anonymous]

Usually if someone mentions that they had a C-section, I assume it was medically necessary. I imagine very few people get elective C sections, but I could be wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ugh, even the thread about this topic has us tearing each other apart. Never gonna get on top ladies, this petty judgement of others, for having c-sections or starting threads about c-sections, makes us all small...

Having different perspectives and asking questions is not "tearing each other apart."

I've had two C-sections and do not particularly feel that I need any type of awareness or campaign. My question is...have people actually experienced outright judgment and criticism in real life? I am asking so that I can hear from people who have had different experiences than I have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree / disagree. C sections are common, and in that, no awareness is needed.

What is needed is understanding that it IS major surgery, that having one does not mean a woman “failed” at the mission of giving birth, and helping eliminate the “too posh to push” stigma.

Did anyone in your actual life quesiton or criticize you or anyone else you know who had C-sections? Honestly asking.

NP, I had to have a c section. I had an on going medical issue that required a c section. I was talking with a pretty close friend about it and she said she would never do a c section because it feels like a cop out and your not really delivering a baby. She said this to my face after I told her the reason all my doctors said not to have a c section. Everyone else in my life could care less if I had a baby from a c section or not.

I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm glad that the vast majority of people were not like that.

[Anonymous]

My c section is medically necessary. First vaginal birth ends in emergency c section. I have tiny/narrow pelvic bones, and baby got stuck in first vaginal birth with a 5 lb baby & baby's heart rate kept dropping. Second birth, the obgyn does not give me an option of vaginal birth anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree / disagree. C sections are common, and in that, no awareness is needed.

What is needed is understanding that it IS major surgery, that having one does not mean a woman “failed” at the mission of giving birth, and helping eliminate the “too posh to push” stigma.

Did anyone in your actual life quesiton or criticize you or anyone else you know who had C-sections? Honestly asking.

I agree with the first PP here -- I always feel like I have to explain why I had c-sections (I'm the PP who just posted about my stuck breech babies). I agree that I shouldn't have to feel judged about it. I would guess that the majority of c-sections are medically necessary.

Are you aware that you are not obligated to tell people you had a C-section?

Yes, I am. Are you aware that you're probably a huge asshole?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree / disagree. C sections are common, and in that, no awareness is needed.

What is needed is understanding that it IS major surgery, that having one does not mean a woman “failed” at the mission of giving birth, and helping eliminate the “too posh to push” stigma.

Did anyone in your actual life quesiton or criticize you or anyone else you know who had C-sections? Honestly asking.

I agree with the first PP here -- I always feel like I have to explain why I had c-sections (I'm the PP who just posted about my stuck breech babies). I agree that I shouldn't have to feel judged about it. I would guess that the majority of c-sections are medically necessary.

Are you aware that you are not obligated to tell people you had a C-section?

And are you aware that the birth experience s very frequently discussed in “mom circles” or families, and that PP shouldn’t have to hide her c section experience.

No, she shouldn't have to hide it. But if you choose to share personal information, yes, sometimes people will judge you. That is a fact of life, and it is not limited to topics related to motherhood.

"I always feel like I have to explain"; "I...feel judged about it." Look at the language. The language doesn't actually answer the question I posed:

Has anyone in your action life questioned or criticized you or anyone else you know who had C-sections? Still honestly asking.

Oh good grief!! I'm the bolded PP and I think it's obvious that I wasn't answering YOUR question, I was agreeing with the PP you were quoting. I mean, obvious because I flat out said "I agree with the first PP..."

If you REALLY are so insistent that someone answer your question, then here you go --> I did a lot of "new mom" things during both of my maternity leaves (breastfeeding group, baby yoga, moms club meetups, etc.), and childbirth or recovery from birth is a big topic because that's what you have in common with other new moms, and yeah, there were women out there who, when I said I had a c-section, would ask why, and so I had to explain "kid was stuck", they would say something along the lines of "Oh, I'm sorry, giving birth naturally was such an amazing experience, it's such a bummer that you missed out on that."

I'm really sorry that you haven't had enough social interactions or just are so incredibly socially awkward that you can't understand how this sort of thing can come up in conversation. That must be tough.

[Anonymous]

Anyone judging a C section is rude AF and they deserve a rude AF answer. So give it hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually if someone mentions that they had a C-section, I assume it was medically necessary. I imagine very few people get elective C sections, but I could be wrong.

Lots are elective, but any stats out there?

[Anonymous]

I know 3 who got elective. Dumb. It their choice.

[Anonymous]

This is the dumbest “awareness” yet.

[Anonymous]

Yes, if you actively participate in conversations involving your body and medical procedures, huh...it can feel intrusive and personal.

Pretty sure most pepole are aware that C-sections happen, that sometimes they are medically necessary and sometimes they are elective, and that recovery can be very difficult. I'm not sure why we need "awareness."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know 3 who got elective. Dumb. It their choice.

And here it is.. the post that proves the judgement that women who have had C sections often feel.

PP, my section could be considered “elective” as DD and I were not in any immediate medical distress when it was both scheduled and performed. She was breech, but I was under the care of a midwife and OB that will do breech birth, so I guess I could have opted to wait to see if she would flip in the few weeks before birth or during labour. I didn’t wait.

[Anonymous]

Uh why. It's not a cause or rare situation.