I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it

[Anonymous]

OP, what are you having to push him to do? Also, do you have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel you OP. its a total turn off. Im a feminist but damn a woman needs a real alpha who can make shyt happen.

Alpha male? Gag. You are not a feminist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I pretty well run the show in my house because I’m very organized and detail oriented. My DH was a few things he’s responsible for and he does them well but he has no interest in all the stuff required to keep a house going. On the other hand he manages our investments and he makes a ton of money and never questions what I spend. So I may wear the pants when it comes to our home but I have no problem with it.

Op here. He doesn’t make much money either. He doesn’t have a vision or goals.

"I chose poorly but waah poor me, everyone should feel sorry for me because I have to deal with the consequences of my shtty decisions."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never thought I would run the show but my DH is so laid back and unmotivated I feel like I keep pushing him forward. I am so tired and feel stressed out.

I am jealous of women who have functioning husbands who can be lazy because their husbands are smart and motivated

Do. It have more than one kid.

He will never take initiative in anything. Sorry.

His dad is highly likely to have been the same. sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never thought I would run the show but my DH is so laid back and unmotivated I feel like I keep pushing him forward. I am so tired and feel stressed out.

I am jealous of women who have functioning husbands who can be lazy because their husbands are smart and motivated

How long has he been such a loser?

[Anonymous]

That's not wearing the pants. If you wore the pants you'd instruct him to get his sh!t together and assign him tasks to do.

Technically, he's wearing the pants. He's got you doing everything while he relaxes. That's CEO material if I ever saw it!

[Anonymous]

To the women with lazy husbands: why did you marry him?

I married young, and DH and I are both pretty lazy by nature but we have had to shape up for our own well-being and for the sake of our children. My recommendation is to work as a team in your lives and re-frame issues so that you are not being accusatory. Work on being better together.

[Anonymous]

Ugh.

Your husband is a private investigator instead of having a real job, too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I pretty well run the show in my house because I’m very organized and detail oriented. My DH was a few things he’s responsible for and he does them well but he has no interest in all the stuff required to keep a house going. On the other hand he manages our investments and he makes a ton of money and never questions what I spend. So I may wear the pants when it comes to our home but I have no problem with it.

Op here. He doesn’t make much money either. He doesn’t have a vision or goals.

Now it’s a deal breaker. My DH is super beta but he makes a lot of money, is loya and loving partner. You have lazy and useless on your ha da.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel you OP. its a total turn off. Im a feminist but damn a woman needs a real alpha who can make shyt happen.

Alpha male? Gag. You are not a feminist.

I am. But it’s also human nature. Lazy,unconsidered men are a huge turnoff to normal
Women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's not wearing the pants. If you wore the pants you'd instruct him to get his sh!t together and assign him tasks to do.

Technically, he's wearing the pants. He's got you doing everything while he relaxes. That's CEO material if I ever saw it!

+1

This. Lol

[Anonymous]

I bet he takes the initiative more with his girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Time to get him diagnosed with Asperger's

Usually the go to on this site is ADHD. Kids, husbands...all ADHD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never thought I would run the show but my DH is so laid back and unmotivated I feel like I keep pushing him forward. I am so tired and feel stressed out.

I am jealous of women who have functioning husbands who can be lazy because their husbands are smart and motivated

Be careful what you ask for. DH is far more motivated than me and his constant cleaning and planning is enough to drive me nuts. With him, spontaneity is out the door. And no, he is not ex-military.

[Anonymous]

Wears the pants, not in my house:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_8BrYoDq8qM