Dating a single mom at preschool
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Anonymous
| Why in the world would you want to play someone else’ Saved game? |
Anonymous
Nah. Dating a co-worker risks getting fired. Dating someone at school or day care, if it goes south, eh it's awkward but so what, the school can't fire you. |
Anonymous
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Agree, ask her for coffee. It's preschool - max you're there together for 2 years right? Maybe just 1? Totally fair game.
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Anonymous
this is hilarious! With all the cheating folks on this forum though a very legitimate question! |
Anonymous
Too subtle. Whip it out and see how she reacts |
Anonymous
| Pro-tip if she's carrying her wailing toddler to the car, that's not a good time to approach her for a date. |
Anonymous
| How do you even know she's single? |
Anonymous
| This is why a playdate works. It gives you time to talk more and feel out (err.. figuratively) the situation. Just bring up something like "I've found that dating's hard while raising my little one....." and see if she takes the bait or not. |
Anonymous
| I don't like the idea of "play date bait". See if she'd like to grab a cup of coffee sometime after drop off. If she doesn't don't press it. |
Anonymous
Yes But you will need to follow up. Don’t expect her to ask you for a date because you have her a compliment. But it’s a good way to test the waters. |
Anonymous
Why not? |
Anonymous
| If it were me, I'd suggest a play date with kids. An opportunity to get to know each other in a more comfortable setting. But I'm hella awkward and hate one-on-one interaction (hence why I don't date), so having the kids around would a good conversational buffer to me. |
Anonymous
| I'd skip the hair compliment. Also, the play date bait seems controversial and she might be in the "no" camp and be offended when she sees you proposed it as a way to have one-on-one time with her. Maybe you could just ask if she'd ever like to get coffee immediately after drop off. See how she reacts... If she says mornings are too crazy and doesn't propose an alternative, then you have your answer (she's dating someone/ not interested in dating). Alternatively, she might say mornings are lousy but after work is better and you can take it from there. And of course, she might say coffee sounds great! Good luck |
Anonymous
Ugh. Quit mansplaining me. You are explaining the problem from the man’s perspective - yes, of course, you run little risk in the playschool environment because as you say you can’t get fired. Also, men are rarely called out for any kind of sexual assault or harrassment or other creepiness unless it rises to the level of a provable in a court of law crime with tangible physical evidence - so you’re protected there as well. I am saying you should consider the problems asking her out creates for HER. If she says yes and it falls apart, she risks retaliation from you. If she says yes and it continues it puts her ina vulnerable position to be leveraged by you in some way. If she says yes and somehow her ex finds out it could create custody problems for her. If she says no, then she also risks retaliation from you. It takes the preschool environment, which should be one of safety where she can focus on her child and complicates it. Just like asking people out in your work environment warps work from a safe place where everyone focuses on the work at hand and moves forward by merit to a place where personal interests create tension. Same with school. Work, school, and other mandatory environments are not personal chum pools for guys to swim around in to get their egos (and other parts stroked). |
Anonymous
| Ask her what her ideal play date is. She will either “play along” or not. |