The way that your partner speaks of their ex

[Anonymous]

My DH was hurt by his ex, she called off the wedding a few weeks before the wedding. As much as she hurt him, he still spoke kindly of her. He never wished wrong doings in her, only saying he hopes she is doing well and that she is happy. I have never heard him speak a negative word about her.

It speaks highly of him.

[Anonymous]

My partners ex cheated on him so he is understandably still bitter and hurt. Says nothing about him as a person

[Anonymous]

I read somewhere years ago, that the way someone speaks of the former partners is the way they will eventually speak of you. I believe that’s true. I also believe a lot of people don’t deal with the true reasons behind a break up and the anger simmers needlessly.

[Anonymous]

your former partner, dumbass. says more about you and the company you keep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never could get over the way a former partner spoke of his ex wife. He told me about her depression, which he said had nothing to do with the abortion he made her have because she got pregnant "too early" in the marriage. He said that all she cared about later on was getting pregnant again. He talked about her wanting sex only to try to get pregnant. Then after years of "wasting" money on infertility, and his adultery, they divorced. Then he went on about how he didn't have to pay alimony because she made enough to support herself.
Another friend told me about how his ex wife would never find a man since she had two autistic kids (his kids), and a limp from childhood polio.
Wow! People, isn't this kind of talk a turnoff?

That kind of talk isn't a simple "turnoff", it's a HUGE RED FLAG. That is absolutely horrible. His poor ex-wife, he put her through hell. That is serious emotional and psychological abuse (forcing his wife to have an abortion? Ho-ly shit). He is a monstrous sociopath. It is a *very* good thing he is your former partner. You dodged a GIANT life-ruining bullet. And WTF is up with the equally disordered friend disparaging her like that and her children with special needs? Evil people.

I would be out the door and sprinting away as fast as possible the instant a man I was seeing started telling me that a story like that. Jesus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH was hurt by his ex, she called off the wedding a few weeks before the wedding. As much as she hurt him, he still spoke kindly of her. He never wished wrong doings in her, only saying he hopes she is doing well and that she is happy. I have never heard him speak a negative word about her.

It speaks highly of him.

He cheated. She found out and called off the wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH was hurt by his ex, she called off the wedding a few weeks before the wedding. As much as she hurt him, he still spoke kindly of her. He never wished wrong doings in her, only saying he hopes she is doing well and that she is happy. I have never heard him speak a negative word about her.

It speaks highly of him.

He cheated. She found out and called off the wedding.

Do you enjoy making up stories about people you don’t know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never could get over the way a former partner spoke of his ex wife. He told me about her depression, which he said had nothing to do with the abortion he made her have because she got pregnant "too early" in the marriage. He said that all she cared about later on was getting pregnant again. He talked about her wanting sex only to try to get pregnant. Then after years of "wasting" money on infertility, and his adultery, they divorced. Then he went on about how he didn't have to pay alimony because she made enough to support herself.
Another friend told me about how his ex wife would never find a man since she had two autistic kids (his kids), and a limp from childhood polio.
Wow! People, isn't this kind of talk a turnoff?

That kind of talk isn't a simple "turnoff", it's a HUGE RED FLAG. That is absolutely horrible. His poor ex-wife, he put her through hell. That is serious emotional and psychological abuse (forcing his wife to have an abortion? Ho-ly shit). He is a monstrous sociopath. It is a *very* good thing he is your former partner. You dodged a GIANT life-ruining bullet. And WTF is up with the equally disordered friend disparaging her like that and her children with special needs? Evil people.

I would be out the door and sprinting away as fast as possible the instant a man I was seeing started telling me that a story like that. Jesus.

PP here. Just came back to say, nevermind. I quickly posted and stupidly took the bait. This story has to be fake and OP is a troll.

Carry on.