Son (15) wants to pierce his ears...

[Anonymous]

My son got his ears pierced at 18 a year ago thought he was a trendsetter. Now that he is 19 and in college, he has decided he no longer want to wear earrings as too many of college peers has their ears pierced. I tried to tell him from the onset that getting his ears pierced was not a revolutionary idea.

[Anonymous]

I agree with PP who said he should pay and clean.

I remember it was cool for boys when I was his age.

[Anonymous]

90s are blazing back y'all. Only a matter of time before the nsync look hits the burbs again. Lol

[Anonymous]

For those of you saying he should have to pay, did you also make your daughters pay for ear piercing?

[Anonymous]

I had my ears pierced at 12. I think 15 is NBD. Just make sure he keeps them clean.

[Anonymous]

OP - thanks. Helpful tips Will speak to him again ask the type he has in mind.

[Anonymous]

My son begged at 13 to have his ears pierced, I made him wait until he was 15, I just though people would judge him and told him to hold off. I also wanted him to think I wouldn't agree to any body modifications right away. I had no problem with him getting earrings. If I had a daughter I would of of had her get her earrings at birth like I did, in the hospital on the same day I was born, because that's a tradition in my country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you allow your daughter to pierce her ears?

Wondering this, too.

Exactly. I think this is all that is relevant.

Meh. There's a lot of things the feminist in me gets exercised about, but the cultural double standard regarding pierced ears isn't one of them. I told my son he could wait until he was 18. And going to get his ears pierced was what he did for his 18th birthday, LOL. (They look great, BTW.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:90s are blazing back y'all. Only a matter of time before the nsync look hits the burbs again. Lol

I dunno. My son pierced his ears 5 years ago, before the 90s made their comeback. Many of his Latino classmates had their ears pierced. (My son is white, not Latino.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not that an ear ring is any big deal but the bigger picture is knowing when to say no to these types of things. Tattoo next? motorcycle? Purple hair? Believe it or not your kids are expecting you to say no to many of these ideas. It’ll be appreciated later.

This also goes for being an adult living in your house, your still in charge with your own rules as long as he’s there.

Purple hair is a gateway to....what, exactly? LOL.

[Anonymous]

if he's southern european, latino, black, south asian - it's fine.

if he's northern european white - no.

[Anonymous]

Your apparel is an advertisement of who you are. Talk to him about this. Go through a bunch of photos on the internet and ask him to guess the occupation of those he sees based on their apparel. Right now he only cares about his friends but he may think again once he realizes that he, and everyone, judge others by how they look.

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Anonymous wrote:I would ask him to show me what kind of earrings he'd like to wear. Because if he'd like some classic pearls that would be a different talk than a diamond stud or a gold hoop.

Pierced ears with studs?

Or those nasty giant ring things?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:if he's southern european, latino, black, south asian - it's fine.

if he's northern european white - no.

This double standard (er, racism) re earrings bothers me much more than the female/male one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if he's southern european, latino, black, south asian - it's fine.

if he's northern european white - no.

This double standard (er, racism) re earrings bothers me much more than the female/male one.

Or is it homophobia? So many choices.