Should we get rid of these toys? Or hold onto them if we have a girl?

[Anonymous]

I have three boys, youngest is five, and I'd love to get rid of our play kitchen but he, like his brothers did, uses it constantly.

It's not a make or break decision. Different kids like different things. Keep it or don't, but it's not a gender thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this will start a debate. But please try to offer advice.

I have two boys age 3.5 and 2 years. When my first was a baby, I bought a beautiful wooden dollhouse with furniture off a list serve. I also bought a nice kitchen. I figured, “pizza rolls not gender roles!”

Well, the kitchen and dollhouse are completely ignored. I try to set it up and guide them to play, but they never do. They are never used. I thought they’d use the kitchen, at least!

Should I sell them? I’d imagine I could get $200 for both. They are nice, wooden, like new. And that’s a lot of money.

We’d like more children, but even if we have a girl I assume we could get a kitchen as a gift or from one of our nieces.

Anyone been there?

Those are both toys that are designed more for 4 - 7 year olds. I wouldn't assume that your boys' lack of interest has anything to do with their gender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would keep them for the kids you have.nmine would have used it as a garage for his cars and trucks at age4

They use both for garages now. But we also have 2 toy parking garages, and magnatiles for garages and blocks..

So, they do use them, just not in the way you think they should?

[Anonymous]

Your kids are little. You're writing off them playing with these toys way, way too early. Especially the 2 year old.

And kitchens are not just played with by girls, I don't care about any damn gendered monkeys or whatever a PP is talking about. Go in any preschool classroom. They all like the kitchen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this will start a debate. But please try to offer advice.

I have two boys age 3.5 and 2 years. When my first was a baby, I bought a beautiful wooden dollhouse with furniture off a list serve. I also bought a nice kitchen. I figured, “pizza rolls not gender roles!”

Well, the kitchen and dollhouse are completely ignored. I try to set it up and guide them to play, but they never do. They are never used. I thought they’d use the kitchen, at least!

Should I sell them? I’d imagine I could get $200 for both. They are nice, wooden, like new. And that’s a lot of money.

We’d like more children, but even if we have a girl I assume we could get a kitchen as a gift or from one of our nieces.

Anyone been there?

Totally fake post. Bolded is the give away. No one on planet earth says that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know this will start a debate. But please try to offer advice.

I have two boys age 3.5 and 2 years. When my first was a baby, I bought a beautiful wooden dollhouse with furniture off a list serve. I also bought a nice kitchen. I figured, “pizza rolls not gender roles!”

Well, the kitchen and dollhouse are completely ignored. I try to set it up and guide them to play, but they never do. They are never used. I thought they’d use the kitchen, at least!

Should I sell them? I’d imagine I could get $200 for both. They are nice, wooden, like new. And that’s a lot of money.

We’d like more children, but even if we have a girl I assume we could get a kitchen as a gift or from one of our nieces.

Anyone been there?

Totally fake post. Bolded is the give away. No one on planet earth says that.

OP here and I hear it all the time in Del Ray. I am using it in jest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are little. You're writing off them playing with these toys way, way too early. Especially the 2 year old.

And kitchens are not just played with by girls, I don't care about any damn gendered monkeys or whatever a PP is talking about. Go in any preschool classroom. They all like the kitchen.

My boys don’t. It just sits there, and has for 3 years.

[Anonymous]

Just sell it.

Are you seriously going to hold on to something bulky for at least 3 more years (assuming you get pregnant quickly and it is a girl and wait around until shes 2ish yrs old)??

The move to a smaller place is the perfect time to stealthily get rid of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just sell it.

Are you seriously going to hold on to something bulky for at least 3 more years (assuming you get pregnant quickly and it is a girl and wait around until shes 2ish yrs old)??

The move to a smaller place is the perfect time to stealthily get rid of it.

And if you feel you need to have a dollhouse years down the road just find a cheap one at the consignment sale or ask grandma to gift it for Christmas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This *question* has nothing to do with your kids’ genders and everything to do with the fact that your kids don’t like these toys. As you said, if you have a kid who likes these kinds of toys, you can always get another one(s). I’d get rid of them since you’re not using them and they take up space, and get rid of your “my boys are among the few who don’t like play kitchens, so now I believe in innate sex differences” justification to strangers while you’re at it.

I was waiting for you to show up. So glad I didn’t have to wait long!

Happy to oblige! Your overly defensive and cutesy addendum was completely unnecessary, having nothing at all to do with the substance of your question. Your compulsion to comment about gender/pizza roles/rolls was only necessitated by the fact that you mentioned your children's gender, which is only relevant if you find it important to promote the idea that buying a fairly gender neutral toy and a somewhat opposite-gendered one is a rather silly thing to do, because ~*boys are boys*~. Your brilliant observation was designed not to fend off, but to bring out someone like me, who would then inspire a backlash from people who are way too invested in drawing broad generalizations from monkeys and toy trucks.

Solid B+ DCUM thread all around. Good job, friends!

[Anonymous]

"See, the thing is, my kids don't like this toy, and my future kid might not like it, so should I get rid of it? I can always buy or borrow another one. But wait, it's important that you know it's a GIRL TOY and my boys are BOYS and it's also important that you know that I was WRONG to have bought it and should have known better than to buy them a GIRL toy which will only be useful if I eventually have a GIRL but don't crucify me for JUST BEING HONEST because BOYS ARE DIFFERENT FROM GIRLS."

Just a lot of unnecessary defensiveness. But hey, when someone points it out, you get to act like the wounded party, so it's all good.

[Anonymous]

I have two boys (and no girls) and we had a play kitchen until the youngest was 7.

[Anonymous]

My son was REALLY interested in the toy kitchen around age 2. Do yours see you or dad cooking a lot? My husband cooks on the week nights, and my son even at that age was "helping" in the kitchen. So he loved making pretend pastas and such. Maybe you need to refresh the accessories? Birthday cakes, those wooden vegetables you can chop, and felt pasta were big hits with mine.

Neither son nor daughter have been big into dollhouses. But the play kitchen I expect will get mileage until the youngest is 7-8. And you can add other things to it, such as a cash register or restaurant tables. Endless possibilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son was REALLY interested in the toy kitchen around age 2. Do yours see you or dad cooking a lot? My husband cooks on the week nights, and my son even at that age was "helping" in the kitchen. So he loved making pretend pastas and such. Maybe you need to refresh the accessories? Birthday cakes, those wooden vegetables you can chop, and felt pasta were big hits with mine.

Neither son nor daughter have been big into dollhouses. But the play kitchen I expect will get mileage until the youngest is 7-8. And you can add other things to it, such as a cash register or restaurant tables. Endless possibilities.

Yup, my husband is the cook of the family. We have plenty of food, and all the accessories. We even have a little table and a cash register! We’ve modeled how to play with it and try to coax them into playing restaurant and parties.

I’ll give it another couple months and see how it goes. If it goes completely untouched for another 8 weeks, I’ll sell it before our move.

[Anonymous]

I have four kids. Two boys, two girls. The younger kids have a lot of hand me down everything. For birthdays (which is more or less the main time my kids get new toys), I make a point to give them new things. They like having things that are just theirs.
So I would get rid of it and then buy something you know they will like when they get to the right age.