I haven’t seen my parents in 6 months and they cancel their upcoming visit

[Anonymous]

OP their dog sounds like it's dying. That's very serious, a pet is part of the family.

They can come after this ordeal at a different time. Honestly, you're pretty insensitive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP their dog sounds like it's dying. That's very serious, a pet is part of the family.

They can come after this ordeal at a different time. Honestly, you're pretty insensitive.

No, their dog is not dying. Their dog is fine.

It’s my grandmas dog.

I wouldn’t cancel a weekend trip to see my parents if my MIL’s dog had to be put down. That’s ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the recommendations to tell them that you are really disappointed that they can't make it, especially because you haven't seen them in so long. I'd do it in an email and propose a list of dates that would work for you.

[Anonymous]

^this

But it's too bad they told you the reason, though. People are usually better off not giving a reason. Reasons get judged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s her dog. Which is likely like her child. So have some sympathy.

... I am also their child.

The dog is not theirs.

OP, you are being over sensitive.
Really , if it means that much to you, you drive yourself down there to them.
Stuff happens, buck up soldier , it’s not an indication of how much they love you.
Be disappointed, don’t be a jerk about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That sucks OP. I agree that they aren't being fair to you. My children are still young, but I'd be so thrilled to see my daughter pregnant and look at the nursery and everything before the baby comes.

Come back to us when your kids are grown. Of course you feel like this , you have babies.
One day you realize that you can live your kids to life but that does not mean that things don’t come up and circumstances may make it difficult to jump when they call.
Mature relationships require people to be understanding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP their dog sounds like it's dying. That's very serious, a pet is part of the family.

They can come after this ordeal at a different time. Honestly, you're pretty insensitive.

No, their dog is not dying. Their dog is fine.

It’s my grandmas dog.

I wouldn’t cancel a weekend trip to see my parents if my MIL’s dog had to be put down. That’s ridiculous.

Personally, I know I will be a basketcase whenever I need to put my much loved dog down (I have a young kid too, so this is not a case of treating a dog as a substitute). I'd probably want all the support I can get.

Put yourself in grandma's shoes. Does she have any other support around her? If this is a longtime pet, she may have a pretty hard time going through this by herself. Just something to think about.

[Anonymous]

OMG!
Who are all these people who move away from their parents then get mad and resentful because the parents do not visit them as often as they like.
Come on people , sh*** happens.
I don’t see my folks as often as I would like.
My folks are healthy , in their mid-70’s but my mom is having the time of her life and sometimes has scheduling conflicts.
She loves us, FaceTimes , texts, calls.
I am over the moon that she has so much fun, I refuse to count her love in visits.
I want to be in my 70’s living my best life.
Try cutting people a break.

[Anonymous]

They are not choosing visiting a dog over visiting you. They are choosing being there to support your grandmother who is likely upset and possibly unable to deal with the logistics of putting her dog down. The visit can be rescheduled. Being there to support your grandmother is not something that cam simply be rescheduled.

I am sure they also felt hurt when you chose work over visiting them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG!
Who are all these people who move away from their parents then get mad and resentful because the parents do not visit them as often as they like.
Come on people , sh*** happens.
I don’t see my folks as often as I would like.
My folks are healthy , in their mid-70’s but my mom is having the time of her life and sometimes has scheduling conflicts.
She loves us, FaceTimes , texts, calls.
I am over the moon that she has so much fun, I refuse to count her love in visits.
I want to be in my 70’s living my best life.
Try cutting people a break.

This. Unless you live near your parents in your hometown, you don’t get to get made about visits.

[Anonymous]

I'd be hurt too. I wouldn't put it in an email, I would call them directly and just let them know how you feel. Maybe if they explain the grandmother's situation to you better, you will feel more understanding of their decision. Maybe her mental state isn't so well given the dog, and they are concerned. Is there a reason you feel like you can't pick up the phone and express yourself to them? Do you feel like they don't listen?

I can't imagine not visiting my daughter while she is pregnant. I would be way too excited about my grandchild and want to be involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell them that they’re making you feel less than the dog.

This is idiotic. They're not going for the dog, who will be dead soon. They're going for their mother/MIL, who sounds like she lives alone, is losing a beloved pet, and likely is going to be very sad and depressed.

OP, I'm in the minority here, but I think you need to grow up. Your elderly grandmother is going through a major life event, and your parents are going to support and comfort her. Also, perhaps, being elderly, she needs help with logistics. You, on the other hand, are just missing a run of the mill visit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry. I’d be hurt by this.

A) I wouldn’t. The OP canceled on them first to pick up extra shifts she wasn’t obligated to.

B) Chose not to spend the holidays with them either which shows her priorities.

C) They’ll see her in 4-6 weeks anyway for the birth of her child so stop griping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s her dog. Which is likely like her child. So have some sympathy.

... I am also their child.

The dog is not theirs.

She is not their child but they love her & want to be there for her. It’s called understanding the world from another point of view.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP their dog sounds like it's dying. That's very serious, a pet is part of the family.

They can come after this ordeal at a different time. Honestly, you're pretty insensitive.

No, their dog is not dying. Their dog is fine.

It’s my grandmas dog.

I wouldn’t cancel a weekend trip to see my parents if my MIL’s dog had to be put down. That’s ridiculous.

Maybe they are just closer to your grandmother than you are to your MIL (who, btw, must be the mother, not MIL, if one of your parents). Or have more empathy.

Hopefully there will be someone in your baby’s life who will teach him or her to be less selfish than you are when s/he grows up!