Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Early forties single childless female here. In the past couple years, have started dating divorced dads.

I want to keep this non-explicit.

But - there is just a difference in bed between divorced dads vs thirty and forty something men who have never been married. I swear the divorced dads have the enthusiasm and eagerness of teenage boys. They just seem so....excited and psyched to be hooking up with me. And....I think they are often better in bed. More skilled, more enthusiastic, more eager to focus on my pleasure, can spend hours fooling around, always up for it....

Now, my sampling size is not large enough to be statistically accurate. But has anyone else noticed this? Why would this be?

That's because mentally/emotionally, many of them are teenaged boys, which is why they are divorced.

[Anonymous]

I am a divorced dad, mid-50s, and I am a fantastic, hung, and kinky lover. My ex got it good from me for over 20 years, but never seemed to have figured out how superior my skills were. The new women I have been with have been thrilled with the way I love them.

[Anonymous]

I’m a divorced 40 yo woman and I’d say I am the same way with my new BF who is also a divorced early 40s guy. We cannot keep our hands off of each other. Both of us are so thrilled to be in a relationship where we’re pleasing to the other that we’re like teenagers. Our exspouses didn’t want us, but we sure do want each other.

[Anonymous]

It’s the newness of the relationship.

[Anonymous]

But all relationships are new in the beginning. OP was talking about differences between never-married and divorced men of the same age.

I think guys who went through a bad marriage, or one that became bad by the end, are less likely to take good for granted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Early forties single childless female here. In the past couple years, have started dating divorced dads.

I want to keep this non-explicit.

But - there is just a difference in bed between divorced dads vs thirty and forty something men who have never been married. I swear the divorced dads have the enthusiasm and eagerness of teenage boys. They just seem so....excited and psyched to be hooking up with me. And....I think they are often better in bed. More skilled, more enthusiastic, more eager to focus on my pleasure, can spend hours fooling around, always up for it....

Now, my sampling size is not large enough to be statistically accurate. But has anyone else noticed this? Why would this be?

That's because mentally/emotionally, many of them are teenaged boys, which is why they are divorced.

Yes I see your point....all men are bad.

[Anonymous]

Yes I see your point....all men are bad.

DCUM Rule #1: Any marital, relationship or sexual problem is always 100% the man's fault.

[Anonymous]

This is the difference you've noticed and I have a few I've noticed over the years and my sample size is a lot bigger.
The uglier the guy, the better the sex. Shorter guys are better in bed. The biggest difference is cut vs uncut.
Was just thinking yesterday how I used to have to be like a snake trainer to get it up and going. At some point I thought it was the norm and that's how it's going to be. As luck would have it, I went back to uncut and haven't had to train anybody or anything.
Don't tell me you want to have sex, when it's clearly still sleeping. If I see you excited, I'll be excited. Don't come to me and ask to get you excited.
Ofcourse I'm generalizing when it some to age or person's size, but it has been true ca 95% of the time when it comes to cut vs uncut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being with a woman who is excited about you is MUCH more exciting than being with a woman who isn't.

This.

They think they are hitting the Reset button on their actual shortcomings. They’ll find out in a couple years they still need to address them. But meanwhile, no responsibilities feels so good!!!

[Anonymous]

Well duh, they have had sex in months or years.
And why is that? When a spouse loses respect, trust, or connection with you, you stop having sex. You have to repair the respect, trust and connection to resume having sex.

That process is too difficult for some so they’d rather call it whites and bang new women after their divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The divorced dads are enthusiastic because they have been beaten down sexually, rejected, turned away, etc., for years by their frigid wives. Hence the divorce part of it.

Now that they find someone who wants to touch them, and is sexually active and adventurous, they are reborn. The single men may have never felt that soul-sucking rejection over and over in a dead marriage.

It's not that difficult to understand.

This a +1000. Dating and having sex with divorced men is amazing. They have been taught skills and most appreciated wanting to please you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a divorced dad, mid-50s, and I am a fantastic, hung, and kinky lover. My ex got it good from me for over 20 years, but never seemed to have figured out how superior my skills were. The new women I have been with have been thrilled with the way I love them.

Swoon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a divorced 40 yo woman and I’d say I am the same way with my new BF who is also a divorced early 40s guy. We cannot keep our hands off of each other. Both of us are so thrilled to be in a relationship where we’re pleasing to the other that we’re like teenagers. Our exspouses didn’t want us, but we sure do want each other.

Let’s check back with you in 2 years...

[Anonymous]

Yes, best sex of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well duh, they have had sex in months or years.
And why is that? When a spouse loses respect, trust, or connection with you, you stop having sex. You have to repair the respect, trust and connection to resume having sex.

That process is too difficult for some so they’d rather call it whites and bang new women after their divorce.

How often do you think this happens?