Husband being resentful about my forced furlough “vacation”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:TBH I kind of resent my DH too. He is working hard getting things done at home, but I would dearly love a paid vacation in which I get things done at home.

Not OP. Why on earth would you RESENT your spouse for something like this? I mean I get being jealous, or wishing it was you, but why be mad at them for something they have no control over?

I think because he is doing projects that are more important to him than to me, not picking up any of my usual chores to share the break, and then in the evenings he wants me to make decisions and help him with project things, but I am tired from working all day.

That would totally be me if my DH was furloughed. Neither of us are furloughed (and we're both feds) so we don't have this problem but he would TOTALLY do this if he was furloughed. The house would be a complete mess every day and I'd have to do more work than normal lol.

+1 This would be my husband too. He'd install new lights or something weird I didn't know/think we needed but the house would be a disaster and I'd still be cooking and cleaning.

[Anonymous]

OP, it is possible that your DH is just being childish, but based on the feedback in this thread are you making an effort to lighten his load? You say you are trying to strike the "right balance"; does that balance include taking care of things he would normally have to do? And asking him what would be helpful? If not, that might be what he is responding to.