How do I learn not to fall so easily?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just realize men are a complete waste of time. All the they want to do is use you and hurt you for their own gain. The sooner you realize this the better off you'll be.

^^^^

Someone is bitter...

NP. I agree with PP.

[Anonymous]

Do not have sex quickly.
Do not allow yourself to engage in spun up fantasies when alone about the brand new man.
Ground yourself in real life activities.
No google hunting and stalking.

[Anonymous]

Enjoy the early phases of dating, but don’t let it take over your life. Make plans with other people, stay engaged in your hobbies and other activities you do for fun, and limit yourself to seeing the new person to about 1x/week for the first month or so. The trick to not falling so quickly is to take it slow, and to assess more objectively whether they fit into your life and whether they are the right fit. That takes time and maintaining your self of self in the early months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not have sex quickly.
Do not allow yourself to engage in spun up fantasies when alone about the brand new man.
Ground yourself in real life activities.
No google hunting and stalking.

Google at the beginning to get as much info as possible. My friend couldn’t find anything online about the guy she was dating so she looked him up on one of those paid websites and bingo! He’s married!

Yes to Google , no to stalking

[Anonymous]

Know your worth. Make sure that he’s putting just as much into the relationship as you are from day one, and if he’s not, move on. Space out your dates a little bit so that you have a clear head about the time that you do spend together. But, don’t build fantasies around him when you’re not with him.

But the biggest thing is don’t be so eager to be in love. Make sure you’re taking care of you while you’re also building something with him. The falling and love will come with the right person, but keep yourself first, know your worth and don’t just go giving your heart to everyone.

[Anonymous]

Get high. Then you won't care about anything.

[Anonymous]

Keep pace with him: don't over-text, be overly nice, etc.

Don't lessen your standards just because you start to like him: the more you give, likely the less he will.

You can stalk him as long as that keeps you from coming across as too clingy/interested/needy.

[Anonymous]

This is good advice y’all! I needed it too.

[Anonymous]

Same ^