June birthdays

[Anonymous]

June 28th and we sent him to kindergarten at 5 but he was ready and we didn’t want to worry about day care. His being ready was the most important factor. He knew his letters and numbers. He was starting to write and already was adding and subtracting. He was also in the 99th percentile for height and weight. At 5 he was bigger then a good number of the 6 year olds.

Hoenstly, it is dependent on the kid. DS was emotionally, socially and mentally ready to go. I know other people who had kids his age who redshirted them.

Make the best decision for you kid.

[Anonymous]

I did not hold back my mid-June DS.

I tried to early enroll my mid-October DS, was turned down, and everyone thinks he was held back.

[Anonymous]

I'm in APS. I have come across two summer boys held back. All other June-September boys I know went on time. This is through two kids. So in my small sample, most people are not holding back.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on if you are public or private

[Anonymous]

Thanks for all the replies so far!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:June is in the sweet spot. No one in June gets held back based on dates. It's late fall/winter birthdays that have issues.

Are you in the DC area? In the DC area, the cutoff dates are typically September 1 or September 30. Fall/winter birthdays fall on the other side of the cutoff date and are the oldest kids in the class.

Some areas are based on the calendar year and the June kids would be in the middle of the pack and the fall/early winter birthdays would be the younger kids in the class. New York state was like this when I was a kid and I think might still be, but not sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:June is in the sweet spot. No one in June gets held back based on dates. It's late fall/winter birthdays that have issues.

Are you in the DC area? In the DC area, the cutoff dates are typically September 1 or September 30. Fall/winter birthdays fall on the other side of the cutoff date and are the oldest kids in the class.

Some areas are based on the calendar year and the June kids would be in the middle of the pack and the fall/early winter birthdays would be the younger kids in the class. New York state was like this when I was a kid and I think might still be, but not sure.

Weve got a Sept 1 cutoff date, so my other two kids have always automatically been the oldest. Im hearing that summer boys are all being held but doesnt seem as common based on this post. I guess its a mix!

[Anonymous]

I think it is more common to hold boys back because boys tend to struggle more with listening, sitting still and energy. I know, not every boy, it is a generalization. And then there are the parents who hold their sons back because they think it will give them an advantage in sports....

Any way, if this is your third child you have a good idea what (s)he will need to be successful and can make a good decision. S is our first so we spoke to his pre school teachers to make sure he was ready. They thought he was and he has been doing well so far. But he is only 6 so the sample size is really, really small.

I will say that a couple of the boys who were held back a year are playing sports with the other kids their age and are in Cub Scouts with the other kids their age. So they are a bit split in their activity friends and school friends. I am not sure if it is that big a deal for them but it is something that I have noticed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hell, my kid was born at the end of August and he wasn't held back. Then they begged for two years to skip him in addition.

OP, your son is only three. You have a long time left to parent. My advice is, don't worry about what others are doing. Do what's right for your kid.

My oldest DS has a July birthday and it was also recommended he skip a grade by mid-Elementary. Physically, he’s really big for his age and was often mistaken for being older. It would have been a huge mistake to hold him back just because he has a summer birthday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi, I dont want a debate and Im not looking for reasoning etc, I am just genuinely curious, with a Sept 1 cut off, are June kids being held back? I ask bc I have a 3 yr old with a mid June bday and Im hearing a lot of mixed things. So I just want to know did you hold back ur June kid or do u know ppl who did? Or does it seem like June birthdays are being sent at age 5 to K.

My kid is beginning of June and we did not red shirt. They fid fine and so will your kid! Also you could have shared that this is your third kid and not beem so snarky to the pp

We cant read minds you know!

[Anonymous]

I have two boys, a late July boy and an almost-July June boy. I did not hold back my late July guy. My almost-July
June guy I also will not hold back. My personal opinion age/bday alone is not a reason to hold a kid back. Hold a kid back who has special needs or is working in therapy on issues or whatever reasons, but just because of age/date no way. I don’t get why people don’t see that kind of holding back as just that - holding your child back. Get out there kiddo, go do what you want and be who you are. And plus - someone has to be the youngest in the class. It doesn’t really mean anything. (June isn’t going to be the youngest).

[Anonymous]

No. Even most August kids are not held back in my kids’ school.

[Anonymous]

We are in APS, and I only know of one June kid (boy) who was redshirted. We have a 9/30 cutoff though. I know quite a few September birthdays who went on time.

In our district, the only kids who are redshirted with June birthdays seem to be ones who went to fancy private preschools where redshirting is the norm. I have not found it to be the norm at APS (at least non Jamestown schools) which surprised me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two boys, a late July boy and an almost-July June boy. I did not hold back my late July guy. My almost-July
June guy I also will not hold back. My personal opinion age/bday alone is not a reason to hold a kid back. Hold a kid back who has special needs or is working in therapy on issues or whatever reasons, but just because of age/date no way. I don’t get why people don’t see that kind of holding back as just that - holding your child back. Get out there kiddo, go do what you want and be who you are. And plus - someone has to be the youngest in the class. It doesn’t really mean anything. (June isn’t going to be the youngest).

IMO, it’s not an issue at the younger ages, but in HS it is for boys. Boys typically mature more slowly than girls, and I really wouldn’t want my boy hanging out with boys his grade over a year older than he is. My parents did it with my brother, and it was a huge mistake.

[Anonymous]

Only if there’s a developmental issue.

Or there’s those who are angling for an advantage in HS sports down the line...