marie kondo cleansing

[Anonymous]

Go through the bags and keep the clothes. I know it’s not KandoMari, but when my kids make a pile of clothes they don’t want but still fit, I just put them up higher in their closet. Why? Because it’s a huge amount of time and money to shop with my daughters. I get rid of their discarded pile when they don’t fit anymore.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I like the cleansing but it seems super drastic! And to even find it, I need to open them up all to see where in those massive pile the coats are for example. She also didn’t really want me to look. And she said she won’t miss them and won’t ever ask for a replacement nor need a spare. But like for the coats, she had two north faces, one HH, one gap, one Canada goose in there!

That's kind of obscene. You should really reflect on this.

+1 op, you should start learning from your DD.

[Anonymous]

Go through them and keep the expensive ones in the garage for a while. She’s only 14, in a few months she might beg you for something more once the trend changes.

[Anonymous]

I have been purging stuff from our home regularly since before Marie wrote her book. I would jump for joy if my daughter Konmaried her stuff. I have been selling things lately. Using FB Marketplace makes it so easy. I have made $500+ in a few months. I would sell the name brand coats and donate the rest of the clothing.

[Anonymous]

Tell your daughter that the bags need to be sorted for selling and donating to proper places. Her school will likely take school supplies, clothes can be donated or sold, misc household items to Goodwill, and trash should be actually trashed. If she doesn't want to sort, then you will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I like the cleansing but it seems super drastic! And to even find it, I need to open them up all to see where in those massive pile the coats are for example. She also didn’t really want me to look. And she said she won’t miss them and won’t ever ask for a replacement nor need a spare. But like for the coats, she had two north faces, one HH, one gap, one Canada goose in there!

This says a lot about you and the values you’re teaching your daughter with those coats

[Anonymous]

Ugh the judgey posters- !

Everyone is ignoring she said she needed to do this as a cleanse- that’s important. May be there is something going on with her that simplifying her environment was important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh the judgey posters- !

Everyone is ignoring she said she needed to do this as a cleanse- that’s important. May be there is something going on with her that simplifying her environment was important.

I agree, but I think the point of most people is that the kid who needed the cleanse isn’t the one buying all the stuff. Someone needs to slow their consumeristic roll.

I’d probably hold onto a jacket in case something happens to the first or she needs a different style. I’d also be very clear that you’re not going to go out and replace everything. I’d further ask her if she wants to consign or have a yard sale or donate everything but that throwing away isn’t an option. If she wants to consign or have a yard sale, she’d be doing the bulk of the work and I’d let her keep the bulk of the money. If she just wants to be done with it and move forward in her new, healthy, simplified lifestyle, I’d ask if she wants to sort the donations form the trash or if she wants you to. If it’s a mental health issue (not saying she’s mentally ill, just maybe the volume was giving her anxiety or if she feels overwhelmed about seeing it all spread out again), I’d be more than willing to help.

Congratulations, you’re raising a minimalist. Think of the money and time you’ll save.

[Anonymous]

I would make my daughter sort through the things in order to donate them properly. It is extremely wasteful, bad for the environment, and self-indulgent to say oh, my things bother me so much, I must put them in trash bags and get them out of my sight and can't bear the pain of even looking at them again. Same for putting the trash bags in the garage, where they clutter up your life, instead of keeping them in her room until she properly disposes of the items in them. I would certainly help her do this, and validate the importance to her of purging her life of "stuff" if that is meaningful to her, but I wouldn't let her do it in this manner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would make my daughter sort through the things in order to donate them properly. It is extremely wasteful, bad for the environment, and self-indulgent to say oh, my things bother me so much, I must put them in trash bags and get them out of my sight and can't bear the pain of even looking at them again. Same for putting the trash bags in the garage, where they clutter up your life, instead of keeping them in her room until she properly disposes of the items in them. I would certainly help her do this, and validate the importance to her of purging her life of "stuff" if that is meaningful to her, but I wouldn't let her do it in this manner.

Spot on.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for some of the useful thoughts some of you. For the judgemental folks, my dd is in the hockey team and she gets tons of giveaways on bags, water bottles coats etc.

So for the coat concerned folks
2 north faces from her annual teams coats
Hellyhanson. I bought it for her since she really liked two years ago and no longer fits

Gap, zipper issues. Doesn’t fit. Haven’t had time to go around fixing it before donating

Canada goose- neighbors daughter coat. Couldn’t fit so gave it to my daughter. She can no longer fit in it any more. Small fray at the sleeves and some seams, not dry cleaned. (Costs $50 bucks = a new coat from Costco) So I don’t think it is worth to dry clean, get it altered and fixed just to donate?

She is not sure if she wants to donate 10 used camelbacks, siggs. They were just used for a month but because it was given out by the summer camp, they wrote her names all over the bottle in sharipies, well used etc. So it’s not that she is deliberately wasting it but rather just have no need for them but yet didn’t think it was good enough to donate because she had used it and had her name written on it etc.

Anyway update got her to agree to sort through again and categorize as trash and donateable. Sweaters yeah, maybe too many and they made it to the donation pile. But does anyone want an unwashed third hand Canada goose that needs fixing? Or a clarinet that no longer plays because a key has dropped off? Or stationery obtained over the years and has 40% ink left? Or do they belong in junk.

I couldn’t quite process the drastic cleansing and surprised she did it right to the minimalist extreme. The only thing is I had to not be present as she didn’t want me to see her sort through them. She kind of felt it was a privacy cleansing that she had to only work through herself. Kinda like the show!

[Anonymous]

To clarify - Canada goose meaning neighbours kid no longer fit and passed to my daughter. My daughter wore it two seasons and now can’t fit herself...

Also, We really don’t need 6 used camelbacks, in our kitchen cabinets. Sure they are not cheap but i don’t think thrift stores wants used water bottles?

[Anonymous]

Have you asked her how much money does she think you spent buying all that stuff. Teach her that in the future she doesn't need to buy/have too many things because she's going to get tired of them and get rid of them again and it is waste of money. She doesn't appreciate what she has because she has so much and she doesn't work for it.

[Anonymous]

she is cute

[Anonymous]

If the stuff doesn’t fit she’s right to let it go