How to respond to DH saying his weight gain is because of my weight loss efforts?

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It actually kind of sounds to me like he's jealous of your success and was either intentionally or unintentionally taking the wind out of your sails a bit there.

I would have responded rather waspishly myself if my husband said something like that to me. Nothing is stopping him from doing other activities or verbalizing to you that he previously relied on active chores like dog-walking to maintain fitness and requesting that he continue to do those chores while you do other stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:You ask him how he would like you to be supportive of his weight loss efforts. Ask if he would like to walk the dog alone or together. Ask if there are active things that you can enjoy together (maybe a walk after dinner).

My sister works only part-time. She had a health scare last year and as a result, she needed to increase her physical exercise. She found one way to get 3-4 miles of walking in is that she now watches several TV series. After work, her long-time boyfriend comes and gets her and they go to the mall, eat a light dinner and then walk for an hour or so in the mall. To pass the time, she tells him what's going on in the TV series. When she gets to the end of the last episode she's seen, she usually says "Stay tuned next time for the next exciting chapter of [show]". It's become their thing to do and actually helped both of them. Her boyfriend was going through a heavy patch and now he's back down to a healthy weight and they're enjoying the time together.

This is a great idea!

The funny thing is that my sister is a little OCD. After she watches an episode, she sits down and writes notes of the show on note cards and then she takes the note cards with her when they walk so that she doesn't leave anything out.

This is adorable. It’s refreshing to hear this team effort too.