Jealous of a friend getting pregnant on the first try (twice)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think everybody has something when it comes to pregnancy/labor/etc. I also got pregnant twice on the first try, but had to have an induction and C-section with my first and now facing VBAC, so I'm jealous of people who have easy births. I have a sister-in-law who had two super easy births, including one natural, but she can't breastfeed. I have a friend who got pregnant easily, delivered easily, breastfed pretty easily, but her kid has allergies. So... just remember your friend is probably jealous of something in your baby experience, too!

Yep! Pregnant on the first try, natural birth, and then spent $1200 out of pocket on breastfeeding consultants, bought three different pumps, and then just gave up and formula fed at 5 months. You can’t have everything. (We are TTC #2 and are having no luck yet.)

Being generally jealous of someone's birth experience and the feelings that come with severe infertility are VASTLY different (even secondary infertility, unless it's something like stillbirth). Even if her friend is jealous of some part of her birth experience, it's still majorly tone deaf to flaunt getting pregnant easily and not really wanting a second to someone who can't have a second child. Hope your journey to #2 is short and easy (comparatively), but if not, you'll understand first hand and be longing for the days when you were freaking out about breastfeeding.

[Anonymous]

Just because she has gotten pregnant easily doesn’t mean things won’t be difficult during her pregnancy or after. I’ve easily gotten pregnant four times, but I’ve also experienced a second trimester loss and delivered one of my babies 15 weeks early. Everyone has certain things in life they are lucky with and other things that aren’t so lucky.