Post-40 Divorce Question

[taketothebank]

Thanks for the words of wisdom! Just was feeling afraid that men wouldn’t be interested in women over 39. I have plenty else to work on in the meantime, but helpful to feel like there might be hope of loving again.

I am a divorced 55 year old man and I normally date no younger than 45 (and like to stay within the 50-55 year old age range.) I have been blessed to meet some truly wonderful women and enjoy dating more now than when I was young.

This is DCUM so you will hear from some (read: those who are batshit crazy and you pray that they do not live near you after reading their posts) that: 1) older men only want women who are younger than 40; 2) women who are older than 40 will not date older men because they do not want to be someone's date to "Orientation for New Resident's Day" at Sunrise Senior Living; and 3) while it might be okay for others, they are so smoking hot they either only date much younger women or only date the top 1% of the top 1% of single men over 40.

OP - you seem sane and should be able to meet a number of nice men.

[Anonymous]

taketothebank wrote:

Thanks for the words of wisdom! Just was feeling afraid that men wouldn’t be interested in women over 39. I have plenty else to work on in the meantime, but helpful to feel like there might be hope of loving again.

I am a divorced 55 year old man and I normally date no younger than 45 (and like to stay within the 50-55 year old age range.)

"There's still life in the old lady yet!"

[Anonymous]

No 40something man will want you unless you agree early on to have sex with him

[Anonymous]

I was forced into divorce at 40 when my partner unilaterally decided to divorce me.
Three years later I met a nice 23 year old two years after that we got married.
Therefore my experience was that divorce in my 40's was ok. My only regret is that I didn't date more before getting remarried.

[Anonymous]

I’m 45 and my divorce was final last year (after 19 years of marriage). The key is taking the advice of the PP upthread- take time for you, heal from the pain and become healthy (psychologically). When you’re in a truly good place you’ll attract all sorts of decent men.

I feel as though I’ve had some good luck dating. For awhile I’d only attract guys either 35-39 or 49+. It took a long time to actually meet up with a guy in his 40’s. I’m now dating a great guy but taking it day by day. It’s weird being back in the game.