Holding kids back in middle school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our son attended an academically well-regarded parochial school, but when he had the opportunity to transfer to one of the local all-boys schools, he had to be held back. My son was all in favor as was I, but my wife was vehemently opposed although she wanted our son to transfer. She finally relented, and, after the first year, she agreed it was the best thing we ever did for him. He is so happy, academically and athletically challenged, and we could not see him anywhere else. He has an April birthday, by the way.

Holding back April birthdays is completely ridiculous. Same with May. Your child is going to be 23 he graduates from college. Pretty soon holding back March and February is going to be the thing to do because of all of the April, May, June, July, August, and September birthdays are held back. Where does this stop? Complete insanity.

Prior poster here. When your son works for my son, we can reassess.

[Anonymous]

We entered our son in public grade school early. He was 4 with a November birthday . He transferred to a big 3 and they ever suggested holding him back. It depends on the kid. Ours would have been very unhappy if he didn’t go to school with his Pre k classmates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We entered our son in public grade school early. He was 4 with a November birthday . He transferred to a big 3 and they ever suggested holding him back. It depends on the kid. Ours would have been very unhappy if he didn’t go to school with his Pre k classmates.

But if he transferred out of his public to a private, didn’t he already go to school without his preK classmates?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our son attended an academically well-regarded parochial school, but when he had the opportunity to transfer to one of the local all-boys schools, he had to be held back. My son was all in favor as was I, but my wife was vehemently opposed although she wanted our son to transfer. She finally relented, and, after the first year, she agreed it was the best thing we ever did for him. He is so happy, academically and athletically challenged, and we could not see him anywhere else. He has an April birthday, by the way.

Holding back April birthdays is completely ridiculous. Same with May. Your child is going to be 23 he graduates from college. Pretty soon holding back March and February is going to be the thing to do because of all of the April, May, June, July, August, and September birthdays are held back. Where does this stop? Complete insanity.

Prior poster here. When your son works for my son, we can reassess.

I'd bet on the kid who is not held back being the boss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our son attended an academically well-regarded parochial school, but when he had the opportunity to transfer to one of the local all-boys schools, he had to be held back. My son was all in favor as was I, but my wife was vehemently opposed although she wanted our son to transfer. She finally relented, and, after the first year, she agreed it was the best thing we ever did for him. He is so happy, academically and athletically challenged, and we could not see him anywhere else. He has an April birthday, by the way.

Holding back April birthdays is completely ridiculous. Same with May. Your child is going to be 23 he graduates from college. Pretty soon holding back March and February is going to be the thing to do because of all of the April, May, June, July, August, and September birthdays are held back. Where does this stop? Complete insanity.

Prior poster here. When your son works for my son, we can reassess.

I'd bet on the kid who is not held back being the boss.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We entered our son in public grade school early. He was 4 with a November birthday . He transferred to a big 3 and they ever suggested holding him back. It depends on the kid. Ours would have been very unhappy if he didn’t go to school with his Pre k classmates.

But if he transferred out of his public to a private, didn’t he already go to school without his preK classmates?

He went to K-1 at public, then transferred.

[Anonymous]

We did it in K for our August B-day son. He was behind socially and emotionally and has ADHD. Best thing we ever did - I would imagine with middle school it would depend on how the kid feels....but I think it's common for the privates to be open to this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our son attended an academically well-regarded parochial school, but when he had the opportunity to transfer to one of the local all-boys schools, he had to be held back. My son was all in favor as was I, but my wife was vehemently opposed although she wanted our son to transfer. She finally relented, and, after the first year, she agreed it was the best thing we ever did for him. He is so happy, academically and athletically challenged, and we could not see him anywhere else. He has an April birthday, by the way.

Holding back April birthdays is completely ridiculous. Same with May. Your child is going to be 23 he graduates from college. Pretty soon holding back March and February is going to be the thing to do because of all of the April, May, June, July, August, and September birthdays are held back. Where does this stop? Complete insanity.

Agree. So many kids are held back that when correct age kids go in they are sometimes two years younger than some classmates.