Do you bring your kids to a parent/teacher conference?

[Anonymous]

At our private school by 3rd grade kids ate required to attend. We’d done public for a while and I’d never not bring kid. They get ownership of what they’re doing and each time both I and teacher have gained insight to my kids perspective. At end if teacher has something to say in confidence kid is asked to step out. We may do public in future b/c of costs but I will advocate for my kid to be there.

[Anonymous]

No it’s both tacky and unparental (it would be as unprofessional if the teacher brought her kid). Unless the teacher requested that I bring my child they don’t show up. The child can go to aftercare for a little bit while I conference. To bring your children with you is tacky. If you wouldn’t bring your children with you in the dental or doctor’s exam room why would you do this to a teacher? I also don’t want my child to her herself discussed from the teacher’s point of view. I believe children should be children and adults should be adults. There should be a clear line of demarcation. Suppose you or the teacher need to discuss private family matters, custody issues, social issues, etc. ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No it’s both tacky and unparental (it would be as unprofessional if the teacher brought her kid). Unless the teacher requested that I bring my child they don’t show up. The child can go to aftercare for a little bit while I conference. To bring your children with you is tacky. If you wouldn’t bring your children with you in the dental or doctor’s exam room why would you do this to a teacher? I also don’t want my child to her herself discussed from the teacher’s point of view. I believe children should be children and adults should be adults. There should be a clear line of demarcation. Suppose you or the teacher need to discuss private family matters, custody issues, social issues, etc. ?

Not everyone has aftercare or a babysitter. Yes, my child goes to my dental and medical exams if not in school. A teacher is there for a job, its different from a parent. I want my child to hear everything and I want to see how they interact to make sure it is a good fit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No it’s both tacky and unparental (it would be as unprofessional if the teacher brought her kid). Unless the teacher requested that I bring my child they don’t show up. The child can go to aftercare for a little bit while I conference. To bring your children with you is tacky. If you wouldn’t bring your children with you in the dental or doctor’s exam room why would you do this to a teacher? I also don’t want my child to her herself discussed from the teacher’s point of view. I believe children should be children and adults should be adults. There should be a clear line of demarcation. Suppose you or the teacher need to discuss private family matters, custody issues, social issues, etc. ?

Not everyone has aftercare or a babysitter. Yes, my child goes to my dental and medical exams if not in school. A teacher is there for a job, its different from a parent. I want my child to hear everything and I want to see how they interact to make sure it is a good fit.

Ahh, yes! The new age parenting skills. You want to ensure the teacher will make sure your little Larlo/a is coddled and catered to for all wims. Perhaps the teacher should be given a butler bell for Larlo/a to ring when she is called. Larlo/a’s are definitely the reason why there’s a new breed of school children who are cropping up and having tantrums over the wrong colored cupcake in class parities. Let’s call the Windsor Castle perhaps the Annie’s there could teach you and others such as yourself how to parent efficiently.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No it’s both tacky and unparental (it would be as unprofessional if the teacher brought her kid). Unless the teacher requested that I bring my child they don’t show up. The child can go to aftercare for a little bit while I conference. To bring your children with you is tacky. If you wouldn’t bring your children with you in the dental or doctor’s exam room why would you do this to a teacher? I also don’t want my child to her herself discussed from the teacher’s point of view. I believe children should be children and adults should be adults. There should be a clear line of demarcation. Suppose you or the teacher need to discuss private family matters, custody issues, social issues, etc. ?

Not everyone has aftercare or a babysitter. Yes, my child goes to my dental and medical exams if not in school. A teacher is there for a job, its different from a parent. I want my child to hear everything and I want to see how they interact to make sure it is a good fit.

Ahh, yes! The new age parenting skills. You want to ensure the teacher will make sure your little Larlo/a is coddled and catered to for all wims. Perhaps the teacher should be given a butler bell for Larlo/a to ring when she is called. Larlo/a’s are definitely the reason why there’s a new breed of school children who are cropping up and having tantrums over the wrong colored cupcake in class parities. Let’s call the Windsor Castle perhaps the Annie’s there could teach you and others such as yourself how to parent efficiently.

How is that new age parenting? Many parents don't have child care nor can afford it. Nor, will we leave our young kids home alone. Must be nice to be able to afford a personal nanny but not all of us have that kind of money and prefer spending time with our kids. If a teacher cannot deal with a child at a parent/teacher conference then they should not be teaching.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No it’s both tacky and unparental (it would be as unprofessional if the teacher brought her kid). Unless the teacher requested that I bring my child they don’t show up. The child can go to aftercare for a little bit while I conference. To bring your children with you is tacky. If you wouldn’t bring your children with you in the dental or doctor’s exam room why would you do this to a teacher? I also don’t want my child to her herself discussed from the teacher’s point of view. I believe children should be children and adults should be adults. There should be a clear line of demarcation. Suppose you or the teacher need to discuss private family matters, custody issues, social issues, etc. ?

Not everyone has aftercare or a babysitter. Yes, my child goes to my dental and medical exams if not in school. A teacher is there for a job, its different from a parent. I want my child to hear everything and I want to see how they interact to make sure it is a good fit.

Ahh, yes! The new age parenting skills. You want to ensure the teacher will make sure your little Larlo/a is coddled and catered to for all wims. Perhaps the teacher should be given a butler bell for Larlo/a to ring when she is called. Larlo/a’s are definitely the reason why there’s a new breed of school children who are cropping up and having tantrums over the wrong colored cupcake in class parities. Let’s call the Windsor Castle perhaps the Annie’s there could teach you and others such as yourself how to parent efficiently.

How is that new age parenting? Many parents don't have child care nor can afford it. Nor, will we leave our young kids home alone. Must be nice to be able to afford a personal nanny but not all of us have that kind of money and prefer spending time with our kids. If a teacher cannot deal with a child at a parent/teacher conference then they should not be teaching.

Great analogy here. If the teacher cannot deal with a child at a conference they shouldn’t be teaching. However, if parents can not afford childcare they should be parents? Hmm...things that make us all think!! ..... pp, perhaps you need to think about your multiplying skills? If one can not afford basic necessities such as childcare for a simple meeting, then perhaps you shouldn’t be multiplying yourself all over the planet! I love how you try to insist that it is okay to be poor and parenting as an excuse for your lack of social & etiquette skills.

[Anonymous]

My child's school require the child and parent/s to attend.

My mom tells a story about being a young teacher and having parents show up to a conference with their 6 kids. She always says that it was really valuable for her because she saw the reality of their lives and finally understood that some of the time consuming activities that she was suggesting were not realistic even though they were parents who clearly wanted to support their kids.

[Anonymous]

No, but it was common when we were at a “focus” school. Now that we’ve moved away into a better neighborhood there are people who would be absolutely would be mortified to do this! Definitely took us getting used to the diff. school cultures, however, we made a really good decision. I always tell people when they move to MoCo move into a Title 1 neighborhood and save up for a better house later. You’d be surprised how it literally is like the Upper West Side vs Queens.

[Anonymous]

It really depends on the kid. If your kid is shy or sensitive and will just become upset or defensive upon hearing negative feedback, leave him at home - no use putting him through that trauma. But if he’s more resilient and needs a “kick in the pants” and will be able to handle hearing what the teacher says, bring him. Ultimately, students are responsible for their own education, good to get them involved early if they’re ready.

[Anonymous]

Many parents bring their kids. Some bring siblings too. I’m always happy to provide activities for younger siblings (paper, crayons, pattern blocks, etc.). The only time it was a problem was when a toddler sibling poured liquid glue all over my math manipulatives. Sometimes I’ll invite the student to join in and other times they’ll read or play with their younger siblings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No it’s both tacky and unparental (it would be as unprofessional if the teacher brought her kid). Unless the teacher requested that I bring my child they don’t show up. The child can go to aftercare for a little bit while I conference. To bring your children with you is tacky. If you wouldn’t bring your children with you in the dental or doctor’s exam room why would you do this to a teacher? I also don’t want my child to her herself discussed from the teacher’s point of view. I believe children should be children and adults should be adults. There should be a clear line of demarcation. Suppose you or the teacher need to discuss private family matters, custody issues, social issues, etc. ?

Not everyone has aftercare or a babysitter. Yes, my child goes to my dental and medical exams if not in school. A teacher is there for a job, its different from a parent. I want my child to hear everything and I want to see how they interact to make sure it is a good fit.

Ahh, yes! The new age parenting skills. You want to ensure the teacher will make sure your little Larlo/a is coddled and catered to for all wims. Perhaps the teacher should be given a butler bell for Larlo/a to ring when she is called. Larlo/a’s are definitely the reason why there’s a new breed of school children who are cropping up and having tantrums over the wrong colored cupcake in class parities. Let’s call the Windsor Castle perhaps the Annie’s there could teach you and others such as yourself how to parent efficiently.

How is that new age parenting? Many parents don't have child care nor can afford it. Nor, will we leave our young kids home alone. Must be nice to be able to afford a personal nanny but not all of us have that kind of money and prefer spending time with our kids. If a teacher cannot deal with a child at a parent/teacher conference then they should not be teaching.

Great analogy here. If the teacher cannot deal with a child at a conference they shouldn’t be teaching. However, if parents can not afford childcare they should be parents? Hmm...things that make us all think!! ..... pp, perhaps you need to think about your multiplying skills? If one can not afford basic necessities such as childcare for a simple meeting, then perhaps you shouldn’t be multiplying yourself all over the planet! I love how you try to insist that it is okay to be poor and parenting as an excuse for your lack of social & etiquette skills.

Wow. Slow your crazy roll, lady.

[Anonymous]

Our school provided babysitting for one of the conference days so parents can not worry about childcare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No it’s both tacky and unparental (it would be as unprofessional if the teacher brought her kid). Unless the teacher requested that I bring my child they don’t show up. The child can go to aftercare for a little bit while I conference. To bring your children with you is tacky. If you wouldn’t bring your children with you in the dental or doctor’s exam room why would you do this to a teacher? I also don’t want my child to her herself discussed from the teacher’s point of view. I believe children should be children and adults should be adults. There should be a clear line of demarcation. Suppose you or the teacher need to discuss private family matters, custody issues, social issues, etc. ?

Not everyone has aftercare or a babysitter. Yes, my child goes to my dental and medical exams if not in school. A teacher is there for a job, its different from a parent. I want my child to hear everything and I want to see how they interact to make sure it is a good fit.

You can’t afford a babysitter for half an hour? How do you afford kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many parents bring their kids. Some bring siblings too. I’m always happy to provide activities for younger siblings (paper, crayons, pattern blocks, etc.). The only time it was a problem was when a toddler sibling poured liquid glue all over my math manipulatives. Sometimes I’ll invite the student to join in and other times they’ll read or play with their younger siblings.

Which is why children shouldn’t be there in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our school provided babysitting for one of the conference days so parents can not worry about childcare.

That’s a great idea! Is it free? What kinds of activities do the students do?