For the moms who didn’t breastfeed in the hospital

[Anonymous]

PP here— ask about provided formula beforehand, but even if they say they will provide it, take your own supply of RTF as back-up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not breastfeed for just a few weeks?
The formula still needs to be properly warmed in the hospital.

You can give ready to feed at room temperature. No need to warm it.

That seems hard on a little tummy/system designed to receive warm milk. What about bringing a bottle warmer with you?

It’s not. Room temp RTF is fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not breastfeed for just a few weeks?
The formula still needs to be properly warmed in the hospital.

You can give ready to feed at room temperature. No need to warm it.

That seems hard on a little tummy/system designed to receive warm milk. What about bringing a bottle warmer with you?

It’s not. Room temp RTF is fine.

NP. But not only +1 to RTF at room temp being fine (have had to supplement all of my babies with RTF formula in the hospital and never thought to warm it / was never given that option / no one ever suggested it might be an issue)... let’s pause for a second on this line...

“Why not breastfeed for just a few weeks?“

Just.... why. Why would you ever say that to someone who came here asking for how to handle what she is anticipating to be stressful, and then your response is to do exactly what she is worried about.

[Anonymous]

Your baby, your body, your choice. Just say " baby is getting formula, I am not breastfeeding."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not breastfeed for just a few weeks?
The formula still needs to be properly warmed in the hospital.

Omg. You are annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not breastfeed for just a few weeks?
The formula still needs to be properly warmed in the hospital.

You can give ready to feed at room temperature. No need to warm it.

That seems hard on a little tummy/system designed to receive warm milk. What about bringing a bottle warmer with you?

Nonsense. They give room temperature formula to teeny tiny babies in the NICU. No baby’s system is designed to receive warm milk.

OP - I wouldn’t start warming it. Do room temp. It will be much easier in the long term.

[Anonymous]

Delivered at VHC, and they have a nursery so they may not be super baby friendly, but I was pleasantly surprised with how not invasive they we’re. They asked “how is feeding going” but no one, not even the lactation specialist, saw me nurse or tried to help me latch. I know they would have helped if I asked but I get like as a second time mom they trusted me to ask if I needed it and otherwise let me do my thing. I was breastfeeding but I wonder if that attitude would have been the same if I was not.

So, I think having a plan - bring your own, empower family to step in when someone is pushy about feeding, make sure you make preferences know but other than that just hope that it is smooth. Good luck and congrats!

[Anonymous]

Former L&D nurse here. I'm sorry you felt guilted during the tour. That was inappropriate. Pps have some good suggestions. And absolutely write it on the white board. If after 2 shifts you're still being educated or guilted about BF vs formula feeding, speak to the charge nurse. Your choices need to be respected

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not breastfeed for just a few weeks?
The formula still needs to be properly warmed in the hospital.

You can give ready to feed at room temperature. No need to warm it.

That seems hard on a little tummy/system designed to receive warm milk. What about bringing a bottle warmer with you?

Nonsense. They give room temperature formula to teeny tiny babies in the NICU. No baby’s system is designed to receive warm milk.

OP - I wouldn’t start warming it. Do room temp. It will be much easier in the long term.

Um, yes, babies are meant to receive warm milk. Breast milk is warm. The vast majority of parents and care givers warm formula.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Um, yes, babies are meant to receive warm milk. Breast milk is warm. The vast majority of parents and care givers warm formula.

That's an example of the naturalistic fallacy. it is a fact that breast milk comes out warm. It is not a fact that babies are meant to receive warm milk (meant by whom?). It is also not a fact that room-temperature formula (or room-temperature breast milk) is harmful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Um, yes, babies are meant to receive warm milk. Breast milk is warm. The vast majority of parents and care givers warm formula.

That's an example of the naturalistic fallacy. it is a fact that breast milk comes out warm. It is not a fact that babies are meant to receive warm milk (meant by whom?). It is also not a fact that room-temperature formula (or room-temperature breast milk) is harmful.

If human babies were not meant to drink warm milk (nature, God, evolution, take your pick), it wouldn’t be warm.

Room-temperature formula is not harmful, but it is also not optimal. Just like a newborn CAN sleep unswaddled in a noisy, light environment...but that sure isn’t optimal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Um, yes, babies are meant to receive warm milk. Breast milk is warm. The vast majority of parents and care givers warm formula.

That's an example of the naturalistic fallacy. it is a fact that breast milk comes out warm. It is not a fact that babies are meant to receive warm milk (meant by whom?). It is also not a fact that room-temperature formula (or room-temperature breast milk) is harmful.

If human babies were not meant to drink warm milk (nature, God, evolution, take your pick), it wouldn’t be warm.

Room-temperature formula is not harmful, but it is also not optimal. Just like a newborn CAN sleep unswaddled in a noisy, light environment...but that sure isn’t optimal.

Omg. Stop it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Um, yes, babies are meant to receive warm milk. Breast milk is warm. The vast majority of parents and care givers warm formula.

That's an example of the naturalistic fallacy. it is a fact that breast milk comes out warm. It is not a fact that babies are meant to receive warm milk (meant by whom?). It is also not a fact that room-temperature formula (or room-temperature breast milk) is harmful.

If human babies were not meant to drink warm milk (nature, God, evolution, take your pick), it wouldn’t be warm.

Room-temperature formula is not harmful, but it is also not optimal. Just like a newborn CAN sleep unswaddled in a noisy, light environment...but that sure isn’t optimal.

Omg. Stop it.

I never said it was harmful; you put those words in my mouth. Ask your ped what is preferred.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Um, yes, babies are meant to receive warm milk. Breast milk is warm. The vast majority of parents and care givers warm formula.

That's an example of the naturalistic fallacy. it is a fact that breast milk comes out warm. It is not a fact that babies are meant to receive warm milk (meant by whom?). It is also not a fact that room-temperature formula (or room-temperature breast milk) is harmful.

If human babies were not meant to drink warm milk (nature, God, evolution, take your pick), it wouldn’t be warm.

Room-temperature formula is not harmful, but it is also not optimal. Just like a newborn CAN sleep unswaddled in a noisy, light environment...but that sure isn’t optimal.

Nature and evolution do not mean things, because they do not have intent.

If you'd like to say that God designed babies to drink warm milk, well, go ahead, I guess?

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of PPs have good advice, but I would strongly encourage you to prepare your partner to advocate for you the first 24 hours. I know you said this is your second, and they will probably be back and forth with the older child a bit, but hopefully are with you for the first 24 hours after birth and can step in to say “we’re formula feeding, thanks for your concern” in a way that doesn’t leave room for other suggestions (polite but firm).