Puberty Moments...
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You did exactly the right thing. Kudos to you. |
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Wow. I was never like this. I don't think my husband was either. Hopefully our kids have inherited our calm genes!
Stay strong, OP. This too shall pass. |
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Hah! That's what I thought last year, that all the hormonal nuttiness coming from my 13 year old daughter would pass. Nope, still going on. Last night after a particularly rough day with her and older sibling, I called DH (who was on his way home from work) and told him I was running away from home, and he could pick up anything he wanted on the way home for he and the teens to eat. That I would be back after the teens were upstairs in bed.
He did, and I did. I cried in his arms when I got home, he reminded me re: hormones, told me he talked to DD who said she couldn't promise not to be so nasty to me, that he loved me, and that this too shall pass. And, I told him I might have to run away for real if this lasted many more years. While I am sure it sucks (sometimes) to be a teen, it sucks (a lot of the time) to be a parent of a teen. Ok, not really, maybe 20% of the time, but that 20% of the time really SUCKS. |
Anonymous
| Op, I laughed at your post because my son is very, very similar at 13.5. |
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OMG, this is my after school dialog with my son every day. Sigh. He is usually more chatty after 15 min of fornite and a snack. |
Anonymous
I find mine improves after a snack too. |
Anonymous
100% pure luck that I had a spare unlocking door handle in the basement, but for once things worked out! |
Anonymous
11yo yells at me and runs to her room. Then comes back and tries to hug me. I turn to hug her back and she runs to her room again. She comes out, apologizes, then if I try to speak she flees again. Rinse, repeat, with lots of tears and drama. Hates when I yell, hates when I try to be calm and neutral, hates when I ignore her. Usually a snack and a walk around the block will fix the problem, but getting her to do either of those things when she's like this is impossible, even when somewhere in there she knows it's exactly what she needs. And it's clear she's hating herself every minute of all this, but has no idea in the moment what to do about any of it. We've agreed, in calmer moments, to not hold anything either of us says at times like this against each other. |
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We had a similar scene monday. DD is 14 and was recovering from a virus, so that probably contributed. She took an afternoon nap, and since I figured she needed the rest, I didn't wake her. We had talked about going on an errand, but she slept through our errand window. No big deal. When she woke up, she said "when are we going to xyz?". I told her we missed that since she was asleep (in a neutral tone, I didn't want to go anyway TBH) and she lost her sh*t.
"IT'S NOT MY FAULT!! I WAS ASLEEP!!!". I told her I wasn't sure who else's fault ~her sleeping~ could be, but it's fine, we'll go another time. "WHY ARE YOU BLAMING ME!?! I WAS SLEEPING!!!" etc etc The bad part is that it occasionally gives me the giggles when she's totally irrational, and that does NOT help the situation. |
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Yesterday in my 1 story house
I’m doing dishes. Hear a muffled “mooooom!” “I can’t hear you I’m doing dishes come here” “moooom!” I stop the dishes and go to her room “Honey I was doing the dishes and couldn’t hear you, what do you need?” “NEVERMIND. JUST GO AWAY! YOU ALWAYS YELL ME” while she was crying. Please note I was NOT yelling. I just slowly backed away and shut the door |
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I just showed it to my middle schooler too: Him: Exactly! Me: IKR? Can you believe how rude that kid was to his poor parents? Him: What!??!?? No! [stomped off] 
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This is all making me laugh! It's like you all know what my conversations look like a high puberty day. I have to keep reminding myself during those moments that it's the same philosophy as when you try to reason with a toddler...don't do it...take a break, give snack, De-escalate...or as one person did "back away slowly..."
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My DH is 54 and when he gets home, he is grouchy and monosyllabic until he has a snack. |
Anonymous
Truth be told I am like that until I have my morning coffee. I am also like that when hungry. I do not however have raging irrational fits...unless post partum and sleep deprived. |
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This topic is funny and touching, thank you for starting it for fellow parents like us to laugh, cry and commiserate.
Encounters with my 11 year old DS can sometimes be like encounters with the third kind, like an alien took over my child.  Most of the time he's sweet and perfectly normal, but odd or tense moments are definitely starting to be more frequent. The road ahead will be interesting and challenging for sure, but we've all been through it with our parents and none of us were angels 100% of the time. We've emerged on the other side ok for the most part, that's my hope for our DS and our relationship. We just need to adjust to each other, feed them when sugar level is low, leave them be at times, and come back together as parents and family. I hope the phase won't be too painful for all of us and we can all look back at it and laugh like at the video. I LOVED the video btw, it's so funny! In 5th grade health class, they taught the kids that they will be driven by hormones soon to act out and do things they have no logical explanations for, and they will have rough patches with parents at times. I just need to remind my DS from time to time about that.
Good luck to us all! |