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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]  "Puberty Moment" is my euphemism for when my older child acts like a beast usually during a growth spurt and acne breakout. Thankfully, after the growth spurt/hormonal surge he goes back to being relatively pleasant. Tonight here were some puberty moments:

-Homework time: I monitor and give breaks. It usually goes pretty smoothly when not in beast mode. Tonight though, he struggled and instead of calmly asking for help he screamed "This is all your fault!" I calmly ask "How is this my fault?" He then responds "How dare you say that to me!' I said I know he is frustrated and he can take a break if he needs to, but he needs to use a respectful tone. Then I get "You are yelling at me Mom! Stop yelling." I explain I was not yelling...He breaks into tears "How dare you tell me to take a break." I tell him he doesn't have to take a break. We then end up in the most irrational all over the place conversation with him alternating between crying and yelling. I go take a break away from him. He yells at me and then apologizes and says he doesn't know why he is like this and he begs me to come back.

Anyone relate? If this were every day I would get help, but it always coincides with an acne breakout and then a height increase that week. After he grows, he goes back being somewhat rational and he can manage his emotions most days.

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11yo yells at me and runs to her room. Then comes back and tries to hug me. I turn to hug her back and she runs to her room again. She comes out, apologizes, then if I try to speak she flees again. Rinse, repeat, with lots of tears and drama. Hates when I yell, hates when I try to be calm and neutral, hates when I ignore her. Usually a snack and a walk around the block will fix the problem, but getting her to do either of those things when she's like this is impossible, even when somewhere in there she knows it's exactly what she needs. And it's clear she's hating herself every minute of all this, but has no idea in the moment what to do about any of it. We've agreed, in calmer moments, to not hold anything either of us says at times like this against each other.[/quote]

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