Dating in your 40s
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Anonymous
| I'm 44, with two kids with me most of the time and I'm financially very independent. Until I'm an empty nester I have no interest in trying to have a serious relationship as it would just complicate my life which right now is running pretty smoothly. I do miss having any semblance of a real social life or a real sex life. I do have a FWB who is very good at taking care of my sexual needs but it's not something I'm wildly proud of. i think there are many women like me who are interested in a fun, social, high libido companion to hang out with once or twice a week. |
Anonymous
Once or twice a week  I haven’t had sex in 11 years. I’d have better luck being on death row .
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Anonymous
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Divorced 45 yr old woman, 2 kids, 12 and 14. Been single a long time, one long relationship. Since that ended, lots and lots of dating, but have yet to find someone who will commit to exclusivity, given how busy I am. Working and kids' schedules make it nearly impossible to see each other more than once a week or twice on off weekends. I would like to be in a relationship where we can eventually be at home or do things together, when the kids are around.
My ex has had no issues finding women to date, and from what I've heard (he does not tell me or introduce me, but my kids and others mention) he has dated divorced women with kids. He has a lot of free time. Initially when we were in our late 30s, he dated younger women. In the past several years, they appear to be early 40s (and he is 44). |
Anonymous
| What’s a childless never married man supposed to do? I must scream total loser to women my age |
Anonymous
| Date only 19-22 year olds for a while as practice, then you can focus on women more interested in settling down. |
Anonymous
You can’t succeed at this without making time for it. |
Anonymous
I'd be happy just having a FWB! Where did you find yours and how did you broach the subject? |
Anonymous
I actually had the sleep with the disgusting fat prick I was married to, so I'm jealous. To the PP who "only" has twice a week to see someone....thats my ideal relationship. The alternative was my newly alcoholic newly fat spouse snoring while I was picking up skid marked underwear.........so twice a week of a good solid lay and an adult night out? Heck yes. Then I get to go home to my own beautiful home (or him to his) and I can look forward to a few days from now, working and Mom'ing in the meantime? Heck yes. |
Anonymous
| I’ve probably had sex 30 times in my life. The more I think about it the more I hope I die soon |
Anonymous
No. Not every childless, never-married man or woman is a loser. That wouldn't be my first guess. I'd first guess you're either career-mimded, introverted, move a lot, or just unlucky in love. |
Anonymous
Where everyone finds one - at the gym! There are plenty of buff guys there (#1 priority) looking for women like me. Like I said it's not something I'm proud of but a 30 minute workout feels darn good. |
Anonymous
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Men age like wine so you can date ages 20-30<40, if you date age 30 or higher they may be looking for children and marriage.
Don't date above 40 because they are not as attractive. |
Anonymous
You might or you might not, but it doesn't have much to do with "childless, never married." Good luck. |
Anonymous
You’re going to do great. I read this and I would date you. I’m actually the one who posted a few posts above (below?) with my nervousness about this situation too. 
I told a couple of friends about my post and they laughed so hard. We’re our own worst critics, no? |
Anonymous
Is that what you think they meant? I'd think it meant they want to hook up w/o anything more. |