High school is ten years away...

[Anonymous]

High school is the easy part. They're growing into their personalities by then, and puberty is winding down.

It's fifth grade through eighth grade that you need to worry about instead. Be present with them, listen to them more than you talk to them. -- HS mom

This is not necessarily true--not by a long shot. Worries about grades, colleges, cliques, and sexual relationships all can make high school a landmine for some kids.

[Anonymous]

As a HS teacher, you gotta chill. Enjoy 4, damn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a HS teacher, you gotta chill. Enjoy 4, damn.

Posts like this are so tiresome. I am so sick of this phony superiority in dismal.

You are part of the problem in high schools, PP. I can’t imagine you can openly listen to a student when you can’t even manage to skip posting your pathetic judgement on an anonymous forum.

[Anonymous]

I have my young son in therapy and have worries about teenage years as well. The therapist said to only look 2 years out. So as a preschooler, do everything you can to raise a strong and kind 1st grader, then look another 2 years out. Some things are out of our control but thinking of it in that way helped me. It's just too hard to predict what our children will be like in 10 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

High school is the easy part. They're growing into their personalities by then, and puberty is winding down.

It's fifth grade through eighth grade that you need to worry about instead. Be present with them, listen to them more than you talk to them. -- HS mom

This is not necessarily true--not by a long shot. Worries about grades, colleges, cliques, and sexual relationships all can make high school a landmine for some kids.

I agree. High school is not the easy part by any means. The pressures of college are real. Kids get jealous, anxious and cruel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have my young son in therapy and have worries about teenage years as well. The therapist said to only look 2 years out. So as a preschooler, do everything you can to raise a strong and kind 1st grader, then look another 2 years out. Some things are out of our control but thinking of it in that way helped me. It's just too hard to predict what our children will be like in 10 years.

This is great advice!

[Anonymous]

I hate the “relax” comments. We are actually raising future adults. It is important to think about...

[Anonymous]

My DD is in tenth grade. She’s got a nice group of boy/girl friends. Some have tried smoking/weed but none do it on a regular basis. They are kind enough to each other and polite to parents. The worst thing that’s happened in high school is she gets offered Adderall in the bathrooms. They will help each other study and help each other clean their rooms. They share clothes. They like stupid memes and looking in the toy aisle at Target.

Raise your kid up to have good friends. I think DD and her friends are okay because they have each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a HS teacher, you gotta chill. Enjoy 4, damn.

Posts like this are so tiresome. I am so sick of this phony superiority in dismal.

You are part of the problem in high schools, PP. I can’t imagine you can openly listen to a student when you can’t even manage to skip posting your pathetic judgement on an anonymous forum.

She's borrowing trouble that's 10 years away. I listen all the time to my students' problems because a) they're kids and b) the problems are actually happening. This is a whiny preschool mom with so little to occupy her she's making up an awful HS experience her kid might never even have. It's tiresome and annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a HS teacher, you gotta chill. Enjoy 4, damn.

Posts like this are so tiresome. I am so sick of this phony superiority in dismal.

You are part of the problem in high schools, PP. I can’t imagine you can openly listen to a student when you can’t even manage to skip posting your pathetic judgement on an anonymous forum.

She's borrowing trouble that's 10 years away. I listen all the time to my students' problems because a) they're kids and b) the problems are actually happening. This is a whiny preschool mom with so little to occupy her she's making up an awful HS experience her kid might never even have. It's tiresome and annoying.

That is a lot of assumption and projecting on your part, PP. considering what we can do to raise healthy, happy teenagers as well as healthy happy adults I’d a sound concern.

[Anonymous]

“13 Reasons Why” is a terrifying show.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a HS teacher, you gotta chill. Enjoy 4, damn.

Posts like this are so tiresome. I am so sick of this phony superiority in dismal.

You are part of the problem in high schools, PP. I can’t imagine you can openly listen to a student when you can’t even manage to skip posting your pathetic judgement on an anonymous forum.

Isn't this the pot calling the kettle black...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate the “relax” comments. We are actually raising future adults. It is important to think about...

I think the "relax" comments are more about not catastrophizing. Control what you have control over. Raise your child to be kind, empathetic and strong in their own convictions. My kid is in 1st grade. I think ahead to issues that can crop up in 1st grade and think ahead to 2nd grade. Thinking ahead 10 years is catastrophizing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate the “relax” comments. We are actually raising future adults. It is important to think about...

I think the "relax" comments are more about not catastrophizing. Control what you have control over. Raise your child to be kind, empathetic and strong in their own convictions. My kid is in 1st grade. I think ahead to issues that can crop up in 1st grade and think ahead to 2nd grade. Thinking ahead 10 years is catastrophizing.

No, NP here. “Relax” and “unclench” are patronizing and so boring. You think anyone ever reads “relax” and thinks, “Oh, wow, I never thought of that! Great - my worries are gone!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

High school is the easy part. They're growing into their personalities by then, and puberty is winding down.

It's fifth grade through eighth grade that you need to worry about instead. Be present with them, listen to them more than you talk to them. -- HS mom

This is not necessarily true--not by a long shot. Worries about grades, colleges, cliques, and sexual relationships all can make high school a landmine for some kids.

I agree. High school is not the easy part by any means. The pressures of college are real. Kids get jealous, anxious and cruel.

High school academics really gear up and there is added pressure to take AP courses, score high on the ACT/SAT, keep their GPA up and build a resume. Add in learning how to drive, part time jobs, activities, dating....

I actually agree with the teacher up thread - enjoy your 4 year old. That is such a fun and magical age.

FWIW, my own kids have never really gone through a mean/cliquey phase and have actually been pretty easy teens. So, for me at least, it would have been a waste of time for me to dread, fret over,
and worry about them going through that mean/cliquey stage because, as it turns out, it has never been a stage for them.