How did you save your marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by mistake? Are we talking a major disappointment (you gambled retired savings, alienated his family) or just regular himan mistakes?

Fwiw, my husband constantly forgets to do things he said he would do, has done stuff like dented my car, has never closed the shower curtain or cleaned the bathroom and flies of the handle too quickly. None of this ruffles me more than briefly. Life is too short to be a prisoner of anger, either your own or someone else's.

PP marry me, please.
I am going to use that on my DW, I choose not to be a "Prisoner of Anger".

[Anonymous]

I quit drinking cold turkey. I didn’t realize how much my drinking was killing him and even when I thought I was successfully hiding it I knew. So one day, I said, if I quit drinking, will you love me and support me? He was there every step of the way and we could not be happier. I am healthier too. Am a better mother. Some friendships have changed but I learned who my real friends were and who just liked having me as a drinking companion. Best decision ever. Wish I had done it years earlier. Shocked he suffered silently as long as he did.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]I quit drinking cold turkey. I didn’t realize how much my drinking was killing him and even when I thought I was successfully hiding it I knew. So one day, I said, if I quit drinking, will you love me and support me? He was there every step of the way and we could not be happier. I am healthier too. Am a better mother. Some friendships have changed but I learned who my real friends were and who just liked having me as a drinking companion. Best decision ever. Wish I had done it years earlier. Shocked he suffered silently as long as he did. [/quote]

Wow, that is true love...on both your parts.

[Anonymous]

Date your husband. Make sex a priority. Devote time and energy to making yourself gorgeous and happy and pampered every day. Swallow a lot of hard feelings, insecurities, and meanness. Talk really freaking candidly and listen then move on. Accept apologies. Apologize and consider things from his perspective. Let your husband own a lot of time on the weekends to manage as he sees fit. Give it a year, enjoy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We moved and it gave us a fresh start

A good girlfriend thought this was going to work for them, and two years later they pulled the plug.