S/o bringing a man food and culture?

[Anonymous]

This tread reminds me of when I was talking to my AA friend when she was separating from her husband and she said, "not only did I make him dinner every night. I PLATED it and served it to him!" That was a very important distinction to her. I'm white and while I usually make dinner for my family I almost never plate DH's food and serve it to him.

[Anonymous]

What does making a plate mean? Does it mean you're cooking a full meal for someone or just assembling something already cooked/catered/potlucked onto a plate?

[Anonymous]

Original thread:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/754611.page


I don’t think this is a case of picking up orders for the office , grabbing a bag of chips because you going to the vending machine too , or sharing a rare treat. Seems more intentional. I can’t imagine warming up a coworker’s food. That’s stuff I do at home for my kids or DH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does making a plate mean? Does it mean you're cooking a full meal for someone or just assembling something already cooked/catered/potlucked onto a plate?

It’s both. Basically it’s catering to your man. You’re saying he’s taken care of .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does making a plate mean? Does it mean you're cooking a full meal for someone or just assembling something already cooked/catered/potlucked onto a plate?

It’s both. Basically it’s catering to your man. You’re saying he’s taken care of .

White woman here. I never do this for my DH (he hates it). But it is definitely this!^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does making a plate mean? Does it mean you're cooking a full meal for someone or just assembling something already cooked/catered/potlucked onto a plate?

It’s both. Basically it’s catering to your man. You’re saying he’s taken care of .

Really? Fascinating,

[Anonymous]

AA woman. The only man I bring food to is DH. No woman should be bringing my DH food either!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:AA woman. The only man I bring food to is DH. No woman should be bringing my DH food either!

Right. I mean how do people not know/understand this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:AA woman. The only man I bring food to is DH. No woman should be bringing my DH food either!

Right. I mean how do people not know/understand this.

Me three. AA woman and I agree with both of the above. It's a trust/intimacy thing, i.e., I know what he does/does not like, etc., so I make his plate at large gatherings (he makes his own at home, of course). On the flip side of the coin, my DH would not like for another man (other than a bartender or waiter) to make or bring me a drink.

[Anonymous]

Black millennial. I feed everyone. I love cooking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:AA woman. The only man I bring food to is DH. No woman should be bringing my DH food either!

Right. I mean how do people not know/understand this.

Me three. AA woman and I agree with both of the above. It's a trust/intimacy thing, i.e., I know what he does/does not like, etc., so I make his plate at large gatherings (he makes his own at home, of course). On the flip side of the coin, my DH would not like for another man (other than a bartender or waiter) to make or bring me a drink.

I'm white but I agree with this. I don't regularly make my (AA) husband's plate -- maybe just at Thanksgiving or big family events -- but if another woman did it would raise my hackles. Not on my watch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:AA woman. The only man I bring food to is DH. No woman should be bringing my DH food either!

Right. I mean how do people not know/understand this.

Me three. AA woman and I agree with both of the above. It's a trust/intimacy thing, i.e., I know what he does/does not like, etc., so I make his plate at large gatherings (he makes his own at home, of course). On the flip side of the coin, my DH would not like for another man (other than a bartender or waiter) to make or bring me a drink.

I'm white but I agree with this. I don't regularly make my (AA) husband's plate -- maybe just at Thanksgiving or big family events -- but if another woman did it would raise my hackles. Not on my watch.

AA Woman..I totally agree with all of the above. I serve my DH sometimes, as he does with me . There is NO reason-NONE- for another woman to EVER serve my DH, unless something is up.