Can your husband apologize?

[Anonymous]

Jeez, there are a lot of broken people on or talked-about-on this board.

Bloody hell, of course he should be able to apologize.

You need to decide if you can live with someone like this. I know I need someone who can apologize... for me, it's a sign of maturity and compassion.

[Anonymous]

I'm glad I found this thread because I'm dealing with this myself. My husband has NEVER initiated an apology in his life. If I don't extend an olive branch and take responsibility for and apologize for my part, then it's never coming from him. In his defense, nobody in his family ever apologized for anything. They have fights, stop talking and eventually start talking to eachother, but all the unresolved conflict festers and blows to the surface eventually.

Oh wait...I should say my husband never gives a sincere apology. I get the sarcastic ones some with the annoyed voice or the "buts" to blame me.

Ripping my hair out over here because this is the first time we haven't resolved something before going to sleep. (yes, he is already asleep.)I really felt he said nasty things and this was one fight where I don't have something to apologize for. I found him selfish and passive aggressive though I know he is stressed out and I don't want to make him more stressed. Usually I can find something, sometimes a lot of things I did that I regret. This time I really feel he needs to own it. That said, I will likely once again be the one to extend the olive branch because I don't want this to fester.

[Anonymous]

DH here. I freely apologize when I have done something wrong. I will never apologize for something I don't believe is wrong, no matter how convinced my DW is that she is actually the one who is right.

[Anonymous]

My husband apologizes through actions and not words. In his world, words are often meaningless and actions count. It has taken me YEARS to figure this out and accept it. He's not big on "I love you" either. Sometimes it is MADDENING, other times it is enduring.

[Anonymous]

Poor guy apologizes even when I am in the wrong.


I guess it depends on personality...

[Anonymous]

My DH will say something along the lines of, "I'm sorry you're upset," but not "I'm sorry I did xyz that made you upset". There's a big difference in my mind.

[Anonymous]

Thanks be to any and all deities that I am not married anymore. This is a good part of why.